Category: Self care
Selective Advocacy Syndrome: When They Show Up for Ego, Not Justice
They say they care about equality.They say they believe in fairness.T [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic [...]
Performative Allyship: When the Applause Is Louder Than the Protection
There’s a kind of allyship that shows up only when the lights are on.W [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
We are not just Black.We are not just women.We are Black women—and [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They c [...]
💔 Period Poverty: 12 Surprising Facts You Were Never Told
Every day, around the world—including in wealthy nations like the U.S. [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whi [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or gi [...]
⚖️ How Alternative Justice Can Mimic Harmful Forgiveness Pressure
We live in a world where speaking out against violence—especially vi [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you lis [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to po [...]
Detachment Is Not Coldness—It’s Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To “love him through it.”To pou [...]
Being Protective Is Good: Why You Don’t Have to Choose Between Kindness and Boundaries
In today’s world—especially in progressive spaces—many women are made [...]
You Can Support Human Rights and Ask for Safety
You are allowed to care about people—and care about your own protect [...]
You Can Love People and Still Set Firm, Protective Boundaries
They’ll tell you that love means saying "yes".That love means flexibil [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety.
But [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or [...]
Power Doesn’t Always Mean Protection—And That’s the Problem
I’ve worked with women in power.Judges. Prosecutors. City council me [...]
The Media Is Teaching Women to Be Silent About Violence. Even Women in Media.
We need to name it.
The media—mainstream and social—isn't just failin [...]
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
We don’t survive by blending in.We s [...]