❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
Retro Report: The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action
Generation X was not ready for this story but we needed it! Our Boomer parents were not ready either but they most definitely needed it. In fac [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ Prince Every single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need [...]
Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
I received a link to the book below and it put it on my heart to think about parental alienation. May this book and resources offer c [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]
When is “All Skin Folk Ain’t Kin Folk” Going to Apply to Those Who Kill Us?
"All skin folk ain't kin folk"
really ought to start
applying to people
who maim, murder, & leave
children parentless
in the Black commu [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
During a
season of speaking to youth about teen dating violence, I decided that I needed
to tell them about young people just like them. After [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Surviv [...]
You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]
They Just Know: How Abusers Play by the Same Rules
There’s no secret clubhouse.No annual meeting.No formal initiation or online group chat.
And yet—somehow—they just know.
They know what to say.They [...]
They Mock You, Then Expect You to Serve—The Trap Ends Now
May you never again fall into the trap of using your labor for an individual or group who calls your worth into question by...
Mocking your b [...]
Why Some People Fear the Truth About Domination
There’s a strange thing happening in our world today—especially online—where people want to argue about the words we use instead of faci [...]
The Forbidden Truth About Intimate Partner Violence & Abuse Revealed by Wyatt O'Brian Evans
I'd like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who makes me smile instantly. He is passionate, informed, and somehow finds a way to do this ofte [...]
When Media Protects Abuse, It Makes the World Unsafe for Everyday Women
We’ve said it before:What happens in media doesn’t stay in media.
When journalists, commentators, celebrities, and influencers:
Mock women [...]
🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survivor knows it.
In systems of abuse and e [...]
⚖️ The System May Not Bring Closure—But You Still Have a Right to Choose
Let’s tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors don’t.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More [...]
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio) [...]
When Older Women Are Told to Give Until It Hurts
The internet will have you believe something very simple and very cruel, and in my view, is rooted in misogyny: If younger people cut you off, it m [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would never let that happen to you.”
But here’s [...]
“Can an AI Aunt Teach Humanity the Compassion It Forgot?”
In South Africa, a woman built an AI “Aunt” — a digital guide designed to support women facing violence. It’s a beautiful innovation born from heartbr [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Unmasking Media Bias In Violence Against Women (Infographic)
"A lie has many variations, the truth none." Unmasking media bias towards violence against women by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
Phrases People Use to Silence….the Harmed (video)
Have WE Discussed Child Predators Today? (video clip) | WE Survive AbuseWomen Should Try Being Kind to Other Women Too | WE Survive AbuseHow to [...]
Twelve Steps to Danger: How Alcoholics Anonymous Can Be a Playground for Violence-Prone Members (from ProPublica)
Karla Brada Mendez thought that she was getting a second chance on life when she started going to AA meetings. But instead she met Eric Allen Earle, a [...]
65 Beliefs Some Men Hold About Women: Control, Boundaries, and the Fight for Choice
For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they want.
If you like it, I love it—so long a [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many times they weren’t.
They thought that time would blur the memories,tha [...]
When Power Wants Control, It Takes Over Your Safe Spaces
If you’ve ever survived domestic violence, you already understand how oppression works.
Abusers don’t just use brute force—they use control. They iso [...]
🧱 “You Just Keep Complaining”: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
“You just keep complaining.”“You’re always bringing that up.”“You never let anything go.”
If you've ever heard these phrases [...]
Misogyny Is Not a Virtue: When Harmful Attitudes Are Framed as “Values”
"Equality and kindness" do not require or justify
the abolition of women as a sex class
or the abrogation/appropriation of women's rights
to pri [...]
Rest in Peace and Power Detroit Nurse Latricia Green
Phillip Lewis, Ross Jones, and other journalists have kept this very tragic story alive even through the tragedies and chaos of our days so that we [...]
💣 In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You They’re Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, one moment o [...]
Parents of Woman Murdered in Domestic Violence Ambush Involving NYC Cop Speak Out
Nearly everywhere refers to this tragedy as a woman "killed in a love triangle." As others in the comment section of this video also noted, this wa [...]
What We Must Know About Romance and Dating Safely
We human beings who seek relationship partners LOVE romance. Heck, even once we find our person, we still love it. But I believe that [...]
Ignored Crimes Become Generational Crises: A Tale As Old As Time
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.-Maya Angelou From the very first pages [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first? “The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
THIS is The TRUTH About Dating Preferences & Inclusion
@thisissavvy ♬ original sound - Sav! @tgjprince We Are ALL Entitled to Our Unique Dating Preferences ♬ original sound - TGJPrince [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”!
As an advocate, I’ve aided thousands of women in creating safety plans to stay alive from people close to them — friends, family, spouses!
Believing [...]
We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the United States of America.Raised to be strong, to be smart, to see danger from arou [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence, no record of defending women or children,
no evidence [...]