50 Times We Walked Past You—Our Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
Denzel Washington on Malcolm X: The Deception of Being Called “Hateful” for Self-Preservation
If you have been called "hateful" because you stand up for your own safety, maybe you can relate to this video clip and the life and perhaps at [...]
🧱 “You Just Keep Complaining”: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
“You just keep complaining.”“You’re always bringing that up.”“You never let anything go.”
If you've ever heard these phrases [...]
The Chloe Randolph Bill and Organization in Kentucky
Some losses change the shape of a family forever. There are moments when language becomes too small for what a mother, a father, a sibling carries [...]
The Velvet Rope Tour’s Boldest Moment: Janet Jackson Confronts Domestic Violence Onstage
I got the opportunity to see Janet Jackson on The Velvet Rope tour but I did not see "What About" performed live. I saw this on HBO with millions of o [...]
Heroines Among Us: Mom Transforms Garage to an Apartment for Daughter Fleeing From Abuse
We do what we must when the going gets dangerous and toxic. Applause to this Mother! 💓....... @naydaniellexo Moms are a blessing, loving this [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
Ignored Crimes Become Generational Crises: A Tale As Old As Time
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.-Maya Angelou From the very first pages [...]
Prevent it-Trauma is Traumatizing.
This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. Some are in prison. Some are in b [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing it up."To let it go.
But let’s name what was really happening:
Your voice was [...]
Spotlight on IDVAAC: A Legacy of Protecting Black Survivors
Because we deserve more than band-aids. We deserve truth, safety, and justice—designed with us in mind. What Is IDVAAC?
The Institute on Dom [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
The Economist: Why Nations that Fail Women FAIL
Please do not watch this pretend that the West is exempt or any political party is "different". It is 2025 and no group of males is doing well at list [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
Male Deception Gets a Pass
And Women Who Tell the Truth Pay the Price.
Let’s tell the truth that too many are afraid to name:
Male deception gets a pass.Male abuse is ration [...]
Escaping Domestic Abuse – Samantha Billingham
It is always helpful, to hear Survivors tell their own stories in their own words. Such is the case here with Samantha Billingham talking with Raphael [...]
🌙 Future Faking: When Promises Become a Trap
Let’s talk about something a lot of Survivors don’t even know has a name—but once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
It’s called future faking.And it’ [...]
The Door Is Still Open: Building Ethical Innovation for Survivors Together
Innovation Does Not Have to Mean Erasure
We are living in a moment where new technologies are touching medicine, justice, education, safety, art, and [...]
10 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Respect You (And How Survivors Can Break Free From the Programming That Keeps Us Silent)
Respect isn’t what he says in public. It’s how he moves when no one is watching, and how he treats your truth, your boundaries, and your dignity. Here [...]
My Partner Suddenly Changed His Beliefs or Lifestyle and Now Demands That I Change Too. Is That Normal?”
Here's the thing. “Real transformation invites partnership, not submission. True faith doesn’t need a cage—it needs room to breathe.” This is a pat [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Wal [...]
I’m Not Angry at Other Women — I’m Committed to the Whole Truth
I'm not angry at other women.Not even the ones who shame, silence, or mock.Not even the ones who call truth-telling "too much," "too angry," or "too d [...]
Loneliness vs. Depletion: Why Women Need Safe, Reciprocal Companionship—Not One-Sided Connections
Loneliness is real, but being drained by one-sided “connections” is far worse than being alone. Here’s an expanded version with more life-giving examp [...]
Listen to Women: Sexual & Gender-based Violence :Experts Urge Victims To Break Culture Of Silence.
It is extremely important that women are given space to speak and be heard. Our very survival depends on it. 24 More Phrases People Use to [...]
False Strength vs. True Safety: What Real Protectors Look Like
It isn’t enough to expose the myths about unkind men pretending to be protectors.
Survivors, women, and communities also need to know what real pr [...]
Stay Safe in Uncertain Times: The Top 10 Benefits of a Crisis Safety Plan You Can’t Afford to Ignore (FREE Plan Download)
Safety Plan Crisis WorksheetsWriting down and reflecting on a crisis safety plan can have several benefits1. Clarity and organization: Writing d [...]
The Disposability of the “Wrong” Women: A Call to Conscience (w/Affirmations)
There is a silence that wraps itself around certain women like a shroud—thick, suffocating, strategic.
It’s the silence reserved for women who are p [...]
We Will Never Have a Safer World If We Don’t Treat Survivors with Respect
We keep saying we want a safer world. blah, blah, blahBut we will never get there until we demand that society do better and be better toward Surviv [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
There is a dangerous misconception that rape is simply about lust or uncontrolled sexual attraction. This is false. Rape is about power and control. I [...]
Lena Baker: The Innocent Woman America Executed | True Story of Injustice and Redemption
You have no business waiting for anyone to tell you that you are in danger.
Believe yourself the first time.
⚖️ Lena Baker: Sh [...]
When Writing Becomes Duty
We don't talk enough about women who have written their way through pain and abuse.
Across history, when power concentrates in ways that silence peop [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
Breaking the Silence: The Latest on Violence and Abuse This Week
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The Deadly Danger of Eroding Girls’ Boundaries: Black Women Murdered Among Friends (audio)
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If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
7 Ways People Manipulate: Recognizing and Resisting Control
Ain't nothing new under the sun. Manipulation is one of the oldest tools of control, and Gavin de Becker’s framework outl [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
Your Defense of Them Is a Betrayal of Me
Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.For the ones grieving the loss of community, connection, or even family:
You are not w [...]