🌱 If Stress Can Shrink Your Brain, Can Healing Grow It Back?
For years, people thought that once trauma reshaped the brain, the damage was permanent. But we now know the truth: the brain is alive, adaptable, and [...]
💔 “I Was Coerced by Someone I Trusted. I Didn’t Say No. Is It Still Assault?”
This is one of the most common — and most heartbreaking — questions Survivors ask.And it deserves a clear, loving, truthful answer.
Yes. Coer [...]
Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing it up."To let it go.
But let’s name what was really happening:
Your voice was [...]
🛑 They Hate Questions. That’s the Red Flag.
Manipulators. Abusers. Tyrants.They don’t like questions.They don’t like debate.They do not want to be challenged.Because questions open the doo [...]
Phrases People Use to Silence….the Harmed (video)
Have WE Discussed Child Predators Today? (video clip) | WE Survive AbuseWomen Should Try Being Kind to Other Women Too | WE Survive AbuseHow to [...]
Don’t Tell Me You’re Not One of Them. Show Me.
They got so much things to say right now.About what I should’ve done.Where I should’ve been.How I should’ve healed.How loud.How soft.How fast.How long [...]
“They’ll Be Raped Anyway” Is Not a Strategy—It’s Cowardly a Surrender
Some people are not "foxhole" people. They surrender mid-battle.
You say,“Well, women will be raped anyway…”as if that justifies handing predators [...]
🛑 When “Being Nice” Becomes Dangerous: Reclaiming Boundaries After Trauma
The Very Idea
For years, people walked all over my boundaries.
And I let them.
Not because I didn’t care.Not because I wanted mistreatment.
I l [...]
🚨 Listen Closely. Believe Them.
Too many people overlook this. We want to believe that people are better than what they show us.
But I urge you today:Listen—really listen—to peopl [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth)
You’ve left the relationship.You’ve named what happened.Maybe you’ve even started to heal.But some days… the [...]
Healing is Yours: Beware the Micromanagers of Your Journey
Pain hurts like hell.
Let people heal.
As someone who has stood on both sides of the battle for healing—as a Survivor and an ad [...]
If You Have Nothing Healing to Say to Survivors, You Can Be Silent
In the early days of healing, Survivors are doing sacred, difficult work.
They are not “just leaving.”They are grieving.They are remembering.They are [...]
🌙 Future Faking: When Promises Become a Trap
Let’s talk about something a lot of Survivors don’t even know has a name—but once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
It’s called future faking.And it’ [...]
Infatuation vs. Love: Learning the Difference Can Save Your Spirit
Some people will chase your light like moths to a flame—drawn to your beauty, your spirit, your energy—but never once asking if you feel safe in their [...]
7 Ways People Manipulate: Recognizing and Resisting Control
Ain't nothing new under the sun.Manipulation is one of the oldest tools of control, and Gavin de Becker’s framework outl [...]
Maybe They Never Hit You… But Maybe They Do This.
Some of us were taught to only watch for bruises.
But there are people who will never lift a hand—and still tear your spirit down piece by piece.
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❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
“Am I Overreacting?”
Let’s talk about something that doesn't get said enough:
When you love someone, it’s harder to see clearly.Your heart wants to believe the best.You [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the DoubtWe’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
How People Lose Themselves: One Compromise at a Time
We don't do any of ourselves any favors when we believe that coercion, abuse, and loss of rights happen to "stupid or weak people".
People in abusive [...]
Black Domestic Violence Victims Deserve Compassion. Not Cruelty Dressed as “Accountability.”
Let’s tell the truth:
Black women are often the last to be believed,the last to be protected,and the first to be blamed.
When we speak about the vio [...]
When Silence is Taught, Suffering is Inherited: How Childhood Conditioning Sets the Stage for Abuse
Some lessons aren’t written in books.Some are taught in the hush of a disappointed glance, a side eye when you spoke up, punishment for being a natura [...]
Seeking Justice: Empowering Survivors through Civil Cases
Cassie, an American singer, recently made headlines when news broke out that she was suing her longtime music mentor and boyfriend, Sean "Diddy" Combs [...]
When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous happening in the public square.
Women and girl [...]
The Velvet Rope Tour’s Boldest Moment: Janet Jackson Confronts Domestic Violence Onstage
I got the opportunity to see Janet Jackson on The Velvet Rope tour but I did not see "What About" performed live. I saw this on HBO with millions of o [...]
Beyond Forgiveness: A Call for Justice, Healing, and Accountability
Then Peter came up and said to him, 'Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?' Jesus said to [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money.She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
When the Whole World Is Watching: It Takes a Super Human Commitment to Self-Care to Leave
updated from May 23 2025
Leaving an abusive relationship is never easy.But leaving while the entire world is watching?That’s a sacred act of radica [...]
“Why All Women Deserve to Be Heard When Speaking About Violence and Abuse—Not Just the Powerful”
For many men, all of life is a measuring contest.Who has more. Who is stronger. Who commands the most followers, the highest salary, the biggest pla [...]
RED FLAG:🚩 Quick Love Can Be a Cage
When Fast Turns to Fear: What We’re Not Talking About Enough
They came on strong.Said all the right things.Made you feel seen, heard, adored.And be [...]
The Cost of Agreeability: How We Uphold the Barriers We Think We Are Fighting
I've served the women who responded to violence and were facing harsher punishment than any man would have for the same crime. No one was willing to h [...]
Call Him What? When Abusers & Traffickers Demand to Be Named Something Special
✦ by WeSurviveAbuse.com
In courtroom after courtroom, from high-profile celebrity trials to quietly buried local cases, a deeply disturbing pattern [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”!
As an advocate, I’ve aided thousands of women in creating safety plans to stay alive from people close to them — friends, family, spouses!
Believing [...]
The Deadly Danger of Eroding Girls’ Boundaries: Black Women Murdered Among Friends (audio)
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When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In [...]
Spotting the Red Flags: Early Warning Signs of Manipulative and Abusive People (audio/podcast)
Manipulators don’t wear name tags, but their actions can reveal their true intentions. In this episode, we empower you with the knowledge to ide [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
Tiffany Jenae Carroll: It is Still Against the Law to Defend Yourself Against an Abusive Male
I believe in love.....BUT, I'm not convinced that everyone believes that women have a right to be safe in the pursuit of true love. As you [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Katrina Cooke Brownlee
From strong to stronger....As a tortured domestic violence victim, she may have lost those first battles. Especially since he had a badge, but t [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence,no record of defending women or children,
no evidence [...]
Released From Jail But Still a Danger to Women and Girls
@carloswins #torreymoore #maryland #foryou #fyp ♬ original sound - Carlos
Reminder: Males who are released from prison may still pose a danger [...]