Maybe They Never Hit You… But Maybe They Do This.
Some of us were taught to only watch for bruises.
But there are people who will never lift a hand—and still tear your spirit down piece by piece.
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Gaslighting Isn’t Love: Red Flags Black Women Can Choose to Name Out Loud — and Walk Away From
updated from April 7, 2023
Sometimes they try to make you feel like you're “too emotional,” “too sensitive,” or “doing too much.” But the truth is: [...]
The Media Is Teaching Women to Be Silent About Violence. Even Women in Media.
We need to name it.
The media—mainstream and social—isn't just failing to protect women.It's teaching us to be quiet.To question ourselves. To shrink [...]
Why Are Women’s Demands for Boundaries and Safe Spaces Being Compared to Segregation?
Too many women—especially monitored, poor, rural, disabled, and older women—do not have easy access to digital spaces. And many who do are walking awa [...]
⚠️ They Know. And Still, They Point You Toward the Danger.
Understand this:
When men tell you—warn you—joke with youabout how men operate…
When they say things like:“Men are dogs.”“He’s probably chea [...]
Does Naming Ourselves Hurt Anyone? No. Erasing Us Does.
If the harm is sex-specific, the language has to be sex-specific.Especially for Black women.Especially in maternal health.
Black women have [...]
Reflecting on Our Collective Failure to Listen to the Fears of Women and Girls
As more truths about misogyny, sexism, safety, and safeguarding come to light; we need to keep talking, keep writing and keep speaking. (I [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to pour?
Women are always told to give.To support, love, uplift, and protect—especia [...]
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Sex-Based Bill of Rights for Women and Girls (FREE download)
Sex-Based Bill of Rights for Women and GirlsBlame it on my education, training, and how I was raised. I've always been taught that conflic [...]
When Thinness Was a Virtue: 1980s Body Ideals and the Cost to Women’s Health
We woke upto pastel lycra and a bounce in the beat—We started with aerobics at dawn,counted every calorie by noon,and aimed for a “beach body” by du [...]
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Erin Justice: The Worst That Could Happen
Women and girls do not always survive rape.
Erin Justice was a teen being jointly raised by both of her parents. Erin notified police [...]
Women in the West Are Being Emotionally Abused And We Can’t Keep Standing for It
Globally, we are in an abusive relationship with males. As a domestic violence advocate, some of the most difficult calls and court c [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Women Speaking Against Hate IS NOT Hate
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🚩 Red Flag: When Someone Is Offended by Your Boundaries
Pay attention.
If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary…
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When Media Protects Abuse, It Makes the World Unsafe for Everyday Women
We’ve said it before:What happens in media doesn’t stay in media.
When journalists, commentators, celebrities, and influencers:
Mock women [...]
Imagine How Women Escaping Domestic Violence Feel
Mom, 34, Allegedly Killed by the Father of Her Children During a Custody Swap After the Kids' Christmas Visit
When my home state got a new govern [...]
The Truth About Suicide that No One is Telling You
From 5/11/ 16The secret: Some people take pleasure in pouring salt into wounds that they know are there. Wounds that they have been trained to re [...]
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Supporting Women: Tweeted Thoughts Post Bette Midler and Macy Gray Statements on Women’s Rights…. (updated)
I wrote this one ordinary day when men and women from all sides of the political aisle called for the death of Bette Midler and Macy Gray simply becau [...]
Who Really Benefits from DEI? It’s Not Just Who You Think
One of my clients as an Independent Living Coordinator was a young white teenager working his very first job. His loving, protective, and attentive f [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Wal [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinitely and just "hoping for safety"is d [...]
The Economist: Why Nations that Fail Women FAIL
Please do not watch this pretend that the West is exempt or any political party is "different". It is 2025 and no group of males is doing well at list [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
🌿 You’re Not Required to March in Every Parade
Advocates are not required to be active in every cause.
As human beings, we can’t do it — not physically, not emotionally, not spiritually. That’ [...]
Survivors Who Speak Up Become Light for the Rest of Us
Young people say: I don't believe women and girls should have to be stronger. We ought to be fighting for a world that gives us all less to survive. I [...]
You Didn’t Just Stay Silent—You Helped Silence Others
When people are finally exposed for being abusive, manipulative, or harmful, we often hear the same tired phrase:“Well… they had us all fooled [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World (ebook) 2025 UPDATE
In a world where girls face unique dangers and challenges, Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World is a guide for parents, caregivers, and [...]
Is This New “Inclusion” Enforceable on Women Only?
For all the investment in erasing the words "woman and women" in order to be inclusive or something, There has still been no energy invested towa [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In [...]
❓ FAQ: Why Is It Sexist to Dismiss Women’s Boundaries and Need for Safety?
Q: Is it really sexist to question or challenge women-only spaces?
A: Yes. Dismissing, undermining, or demanding access to women-only spaces—especial [...]