Silenced Prey: Unsolved murders of Black women in Chicago leave puzzling pattern
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🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
When They Can’t Control You Anymore, They Try to Control How People See You
One of the realities of working with women trying to get away from an abusive relationship is the difficult work that must be done long after the brea [...]
You Shall Not Be Moved by Hate
God does not send lifelines shaped like chains—if it’s choking you, it ain’t saving you.
Let’s say this plainly: You are being manipulated.
When s [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
⚖️So If Robin Fought. Sierah Shouldn’t Have Had To.
Some stories never stop echoing — they just move from one woman’s life to another’s.In 1990, a woman named Robin Gardner was riding her bicycle do [...]
Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024
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There are moments when listening is not polite or optional.List [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal security, and institutional responsibility, es [...]
The Performance of Ignorance: How Men Pretend Sexual Violence Is News.
There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deser [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
Mahogany: Beyond Fashion, a Lesson in Power and Abuse 💔
Mahogany is often celebrated for its style—but the film also quietly shows obsession, control, and emotional abuse.
But beneath that glossy surface [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
Who’s Really Saying “Stop Harming Her”?
You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, “Stop doing that.”
Too often, when violence is committed against a woman, men [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
When Your Strength Makes Them Angry
Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong just for standing in your own power.
You say no.You speak up.You leave.You choos [...]
If You Have Nothing Healing to Say to Survivors, You Can Be Silent
In the early days of healing, Survivors are doing sacred, difficult work.
They are not “just leaving.”They are grieving.They are remembering.They are [...]
A Checklist for Anyone Claiming to Care About Women and Children’s Safety
No matter how you identify, if you continuously show up only to argue that women shouldn’t fight for our own health, opportunity, and safety, then the [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me.[...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
Rest in Peace and Power Detroit Nurse Latricia Green
Phillip Lewis, Ross Jones, and other journalists have kept this very tragic story alive even through the tragedies and chaos of our days so that we [...]
Surviving Stalking: It’s Surviving a Terror Campaign
You just can't even imagine.
That’s not a cliché. That’s a fact.
Unless you’ve lived it—being stalked, pursued, hunted—you don’t know what it’s li [...]
Breaking the Myth: “Men Don’t Need to Be Trans to Rape Women”
One of the most dangerous and dismissive talking points circulating today is the claim that “men don’t need to be trans to rape women because men will [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
Predators Are Not Always Charismatic—Don’t Be Fooled by the Stereotype
Many people have a picture in their minds of what a predator looks like: charming, confident, manipulative, always in control. But let’s be clear—pred [...]
“She Wasn’t Told He Killed Before: The Tragic Workplace Murder of Kerri Harris and the Warning Signs We Can’t Ignore”
Women are significantly more likely to be victims of stalking.
Approximately 1 in 3 women have experienced stalking at some point in thei [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-truths to guilt others into giving up spaces that were built for survival.
So let’ [...]
If Women Are ‘Imagining It,’ Why Is Someone Making Money From It?
It’s wild how quickly the world silences women.The minute a woman says she’s uncomfortable, cautious, or afraid, people look at her like she’s exagger [...]
What Really Protects Women: Moving Beyond Racial Myths and Toward Real Safety
For generations, women have been taught to fear the wrong things.We were warned about dark alleys, strangers, and the “unknown man” who might leap out [...]
🕯️ Sandy’s Law: The Price She Paid, The Road She Built
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There are women today who believe that feminism is no longer needed.But sometimes the only reason it feels unnecessary is beca [...]