Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
The Algorithms are Watching Her, Too: Coercive Control in the Digital Age
Technology didn’t invent abuse—it just made it harder to escape.
She didn’t hand him a knife.She handed him a password.She didn’t give him permission [...]
30 Signs of a Dangerous Person: How to Protect Yourself from Manipulators & Predators
Unsafe people don’t always reveal their true nature immediately. They test boundaries, manipulate emotions, and gain trust before showing their worst [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money. She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
Minimizing Chronic Pain Can Be Dangerous and Deadly (impactful Tiktok video story)
Pain hurts in a way that words fail. Pain doesn’t announce itself politely.It arrives like weather—uninvited, undeniable, and immune to reason. [...]
It Doesn’t Take Long: When Obsession Turns Deadly After Just a Few Dates
By Tonya GJ Prince | WeSurviveAbuse.com Some people believe that stalking only happens after long, intense relationships.
They think, "Oh, she mus [...]
⚖️So If Robin Fought. Sierah Shouldn’t Have Had To.
Some stories never stop echoing — they just move from one woman’s life to another’s. In 1990, a woman named Robin Gardner was riding her bicycle do [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me. [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
There is a dangerous misconception that rape is simply about lust or uncontrolled sexual attraction. This is false. Rape is about power and control. I [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
Breaking the Myth: “Men Don’t Need to Be Trans to Rape Women”
One of the most dangerous and dismissive talking points circulating today is the claim that “men don’t need to be trans to rape women because men will [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
“She Wasn’t Told He Killed Before: The Tragic Workplace Murder of Kerri Harris and the Warning Signs We Can’t Ignore”
Women are significantly more likely to be victims of stalking.
Approximately 1 in 3 women have experienced stalking at some point in thei [...]
30 Red Flags of Unsafe People: How to Spot Them Early
Some people are simply unsafe. Whether in personal relationships, workplaces, social settings, movements, politics, or online spaces, unsafe individ [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
When “Nothing Will Happen” Isn’t a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
“If your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences?” When certainty replaces [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how fast she should’ve healed, how she should’ve ta [...]
Predators Are Not Always Charismatic—Don’t Be Fooled by the Stereotype
Many people have a picture in their minds of what a predator looks like: charming, confident, manipulative, always in control. But let’s be clear—pred [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal security, and institutional responsibility, es [...]
Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-be [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
When They Can’t Control You Anymore, They Try to Control How People See You
One of the realities of working with women trying to get away from an abusive relationship is the difficult work that must be done long after the brea [...]
Jingle Bells Too: When People Pretend the Story Ended at “Slavery Ended”
This isn't about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons. Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who w [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
Is Face ID a Danger for Women in Abusive Relationships?
“Convenience shouldn’t cost you your safety.” We don’t always talk about this, but we should:
Face ID (and other biometric features like fingerpri [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]