Some of us have been told since girlhood that our main purpose in this life was to support men.To smile when they win.To clap for their rise.To smooth
Some of us have been told since girlhood that our main purpose in this life was to support men.
To smile when they win.
To clap for their rise.
To smooth their path, even when it’s built on our backs.
And too many of us… still do it.
Still pour our time, our sweat, our strategy into elevating males who will turn around and use that power to dominate women and children.
That is not loyalty.
That is not love.
That is self-sabotage.
Every hour you spend building a man’s ladder to power — when you know he will use that power against women — is an hour stolen from your own freedom.
It is an hour stolen from your daughter’s safety.
It is an hour stolen from the survival of the next girl who will stand in front of him, asking for mercy, and find none.
This is the kind of “help” that chains us.
We cannot keep handing tools to those who have shown us they will build cages.
Our hands are needed elsewhere:
To build sanctuary spaces where women are safe from male violence.
To raise up women and girls who will inherit the earth whole, not broken.
To craft laws, networks, and strategies that protect us, not prey on us.
Some will call this disloyal.
But ask yourself: loyalty to what?
To a system that grooms women to assist in our own oppression?
To men who stand on our shoulders and call it leadership?
No.
No more.
Not one more ounce of our lifetime will be spent polishing the crown of someone who will turn and use it to keep us in the shadows.
Sisters, we have building to do — but it’s for us.
It’s for our daughters.
It’s for the women who will come after us and deserve to inherit a world where their power is not handed away for free.
If he rises to dominate women and children, let him climb alone.
Affirmations: Reclaiming My Power
I will not build thrones for those who would use them against me.
My time and energy are sacred; I spend them on my own freedom.
I choose to build ladders that lift women and children to safety and strength.
I release the habit of helping people harm me.
My loyalty belongs to truth, safety, and love — not to my own destruction.
I am worthy of protection, not exploitation.
I will not be the architect of my own cage.
Every day, I invest in people and projects that protect my dignity.
I choose to put my hands to work building my future, not my downfall.
I refuse to participate in my own oppression.
