🌿Healing Without Being Pulled Into Someone Else’s Agenda

Survivors are not projects to be shaped.
They are people who deserve safety, clarity, and freedom.

Many Survivors have lived through:

• coercive partners

• manipulative leaders

• cult dynamics

• spiritual abuse

• sexual and physical violence

• systems that dismissed their warnings and punished their instincts

In those environments, one theme repeats:

“Silence your own intuition — and obey our rules instead.”

Refuse to recreate that.

Survivors do not have to adopt new terminology for things that are already easily defined. Women and children do not have to accept being renamed by men if they do not want to. 

🛡️ Intuition Is Not the Enemy — It’s Part of Safety

For someone who has experienced abuse, their body and spirit often noticed danger long before anyone else did. 

In many cases, they were taught to override those signals:

• “Don’t question him.”

• “Be a good wife.”

• “Stay sweet.”

• “Don’t ruin his reputation.”

• “You’re imagining things.”

That forced self-betrayal is part of the trauma.

Journeys to the self, devotion, and loyalty teaches:

• Notice your instincts.

• Slow down.

• Ask questions.

• Step back when something doesn’t feel right.

• Even to faith communities we teach: God does not require you to ignore warning signs to prove your faithfulness. That is a man-made rule that only serves man. No training, leader, or belief system should require a Survivor to override their intuition again.

 Reject coercion in all its disguises.

You may reject pressure to “keep the peace” at the cost of your safety.

You may reject being hurried into decisions, love-bombing, silent treatments, guilt trips, forced apologies, or demands for secrecy.

You may reject being told what your experience “really was,” being talked over, minimized, or told to ignore your own warning bells.

Your intuition is wisdom.

You do not have to surrender your safety….

You do not have to surrender yourself to be loved, believed, or worthy.