When It’s No Longer Safe to Stay Attached

Move With a Flow That Honors You

(inspired by your closing words—soft, powerful, rooted in survival and self-worth)

We don’t always know what to call it when love starts to shift.

When the words they use begin to sting just a little.
When what once felt like admiration turns into something twisted.
When you find yourself explaining your beauty—and they find ways to subtract from it.

I remember being in my 20s, sharing something simple with the man I was with then.
Something about my body. My shape. My proportions.
I was trying to express something good—something I had grown to like about myself.

But his response? He flipped it.
Twisted it into something negative.
Diminished what I had just uplifted.

At the time, I felt it.
But I didn’t know what to do with that feeling.

See, my Granny was a master seamstress and a woman of faith.
She believed in beauty—not the kind you chase, but the kind you honor.
She used to say:

“God didn’t make bad bodies. Just people who don’t know how to dress them—or how to see them right.”

That wisdom stayed with me.
But back then, I still stayed with him.

I didn’t have the words. I didn’t have the confidence.
And if I’m being honest, I thought love meant holding on, even when it hurt.

I’m not that girl anymore.

But I hold her with love.
Because she was doing her best with what she knew.
And now that I know more, I speak—not just for her, but for the ones still figuring it out.

Because here’s the truth:
Not everyone you love will love you the right way.
Not everyone you defend will defend you back.
Not everyone who starts with softness will stay that way.

And when it starts to look different, feel different, sound different—
You don’t owe loyalty to someone who’s no longer loyal to your peace.

People grow. People change.
And you can, too.

So if you ever feel the shift…
If something begins to feel off…
Move with a flow that honors you.
That’s not selfish. That’s sacred.

🌿 Affirmations: Move With a Flow That Honors You

1. I am allowed to outgrow anyone who no longer honors my peace.

2. Noticing is enough. I don’t need permission to change direction.

3. My love does not require me to accept disrespect.

4. I can release what hurts without guilt or apology.

5. Even when I didn’t leave, I was still worthy of better.

6. My body deserves to be seen, loved, and spoken to with reverence.

7. I no longer stay where I am not cherished.

8. I have the right to walk away from what dishonors me—even if I once called it home.

9. My boundaries are a reflection of self-respect, not punishment.

10. I trust myself to move with wisdom, even when it hurts.