Chapters 0:00 – Caring relationships that still feel distant 0:18 – Why this isn’t a mindset or self-esteem problem 0:31 – The self-love circuit and n
Chapters 0:00 – Caring relationships that still feel distant 0:18 – Why this isn’t a mindset or self-esteem problem 0:31 – The self-love circuit and nervous system safety 0:57 – Why connection starts inside the nervous system 1:18 – Self-love as internal safety, not confidence 1:47 – How the brain scans for threat in relationships 2:08 – When your inner world doesn’t feel safe 2:35 – Why connection is state-dependent 2:59 – The “gate” that blocks love from landing 3:19 – Seeking love vs receiving love 3:41 – How self-love opens the gate to connection 3:52 – Three practices to strengthen the circuit 3:57 – Practice 1: noticing your body’s response 4:21 – Practice 2: regulate before you interpret 4:48 – Practice 3: stop earning love 5:19 – When protection is appropriate vs reflexive 5:43 – How safety allows connection to deepen 5:57 – Next video: gratitude and the brain 6:06 – Final takeaway on safety and connection