Unveiling the Dark History of Gynecology | Ill Will
In this eye-opening first episode of "Ill Will," host A.B. Burns-Tucker is joined by Dr. Keisha Ray to dive into the troubling history of gynecology's [...]
When the Harm Comes from Another Child: Why We Must Take Intra-Child Sexual Abuse Seriously
Updated from Oct 2016.....
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult.It’s hard being th [...]
Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be kind".
If #MeToo got us talking and [...]
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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2
Original post 9/23/15 7. Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized. They have questions.
Q: How many i [...]
Consent Is Not an Afterthought. It Is the First Requirement
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s make this plain:Consent is not a footnote.It is not a favor.It is not a vibe, a guess, or something you assume after yo [...]
🕊️ We Will Always Choose the Child: Culture Cannot Justify Harm
In the United States, there has always been a clash between cultural beliefs and the safety of the child. We just happen to be diverse like that.
[...]
8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse
So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night. Every night without fail. And every night without fail, this would happen [...]
How What We Don't Know About Suicide is Killing People
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides were reported, making suicide the [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a world that often confuses access with equa [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and Respect—Especially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
That includes the right to privacy, safety, and dignity—especially for young women [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our truths can empower others to d [...]
Sally Hemings: The Founding Father and the Silence He Bought.
Like every abused woman and child Black Americans reside in a county that pushes us to "move on", "get over it", and "forgive and forget". Heavy emph [...]
If We Were Better We Would Be Prioritizing Silenced Children And Not Grown Men
This is how the rest of us end up in therapy for yearssss. Dealing with people who run to console, protect, and shield grown sturdy men and not hurtin [...]
You May Think He Was Misunderstood—But What He Did Was Evil
And the damage may last for lifetimes.
We live in a world where the predator’s pain often gets more airtime than the Survivor’s truth.
He had a roug [...]
Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't capable of violence silences Survivors of [...]
Courtney Stodden’s Lifetime Movie Exposes the Public Grooming of a Child Bride—and the Cruelty of Celebrity Culture
I wasn't deeply familiar with this young woman prior to watching the Lifetime movie. I'm a bit out of her target age range. But being a teenager and t [...]
Why Don’t We Talk About Black Men Who Survived Childhood Abuse?
There are stories we rarely let breathe.The stories of Black men who were once Black boys — hurt, silenced, told to “man up,” told t [...]
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Greenleaf on OWN. If you’ve ever watched it, you know [...]
How Women are Surviving More Abuse in Prison
For Some Girls, Sexual Abuse Can Lead to Prison
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🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women
Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women."
We’ve heard it too many times [...]
Stay Out of Her Healing, You Weren’t There.
This is not about whether you think she was right or wrong.This is not about your definition of accountability.This is not about your fantasy version [...]
No Gratitude, No Quilt: A Lesson from My Mama (and a Little Fried Chicken)
*Updated for 2025Several months ago, my mom asked me to pick up some hair accessories like the ones she saw me wearing. Naturally, I did.
B [...]
20 Common Misconceptions About When and Why Survivors “Should Be Over the Pain”
Our nervous system doesn't comprehend "forgive & forget."
We can try to not think about trauma that happened to us-- but then we end up feelin [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia. Here is what I learned. What one thing [...]
How We Are Getting Played by Rapists & Abusers
Updated from 7/1/15The Pied PiperWhen I was a kid, there was a "children's story" that scared me to death.The Pied Piper was a story based o [...]
Zainab Jama Is the Voice So Many Girls Have Been Waiting For
Zainab Jama, Miss World Somalia 2025, is not just a beauty queen—She is a truth-teller.A torchbearer.A fierce, unflinching voice for girls the world [...]
Truth-Telling Is Not “Race Talk.” It’s Course Correction.
Saying “Black woman” is not race discourse.It’s not divisive.It’s not inflammatory.It’s accuracy in the field of violence and abuse — a field that h [...]
5 Reasons Why the Silence Around Abuse Isn't Golden
They say "silence is golden". No, it isn't, it's tarnished and rusty on the edges. At least when it comes to abuse it is.Allow m [...]
#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girl’s truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world.They tried to make her shame [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenya’s “Madams”
SELF CARE ALERTThis one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself."They’re still children, so it’s easy to manipu [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]