It’s wild how quickly the world silences women.The minute a woman says she’s uncomfortable, cautious, or afraid, people look at her like she’s exagger
It’s wild how quickly the world silences women.
The minute a woman says she’s uncomfortable, cautious, or afraid, people look at her like she’s exaggerating.
Like she’s fragile.
Like she’s imagining things.
They question her instincts more than they question the behavior that triggered them.
But here’s the part almost no one wants to say out loud:
There is real money- GENERATIONAL WEALTH -in convincing women that our fear is irrational.
There are industries — entire profit streams — built on the idea that women’s boundaries don’t matter.
Whole markets thrive on sexualizing the violation of women’s privacy, turning our discomfort into entertainment, and framing our concerns as overreaction.
And then those same people turn around and ask women:
“Why are you worried?”
“Why do you feel unsafe?”
“As long as he’s not doing anything, what’s the problem?”
“That never happens” (This is a favorite. Like any of these folks ever listen to women.)
They pretend it’s all harmless curiosity.
But we know better.
There are individuals and industries making big dollars from ignoring women’s safety, mocking women’s instincts, and erasing the lived reality of harm.
So when women raise the alarm, we are not being dramatic.
We’re responding to patterns we didn’t create — patterns the world keeps profiting from.
And some of us see it clearly.
We’re not surprised.
We’re just done being shamed for naming what’s right in front of us.
There are porn categories built around themes that sexualizes boundary violations, voyeurism, and the breaching of protected spaces.
The billion dollar adult industry has long created categories involving voyeurism, bathrooms/locker rooms, changing rooms, and “forbidden” spaces, because they know it taps into taboo and shock.
There are categories sexualizing the idea of a man entering a women’s space where he does not belong.
This is an niche industry:
- You have the people filming the videos of sexual acts taking place in our spaces. Unsuspecting women and children seem to be a hit for some …I guess.
- The people creating content criticizing women for being afraid, triggered, and speaking out (What do they think is happening? He wasn’t really doing anything. This never happens. She’s overreacting over nothing. Just go somewhere else.)
- Live acts that make fun of women’s fear
- Then the moneymaking porn
- and all of the staff…..all built to sexualize tension, taboo, and crossing boundaries.
- Not to mention the leaders — and the people who follow them — who work overtime to convince women that we’re imagining what is right in front of us.
They tell us we’re not seeing what we’re seeing, not feeling what we’re feeling, not hearing what we’re hearing. They insist the danger isn’t real, even when our bodies and histories tell us otherwise.
They want us to believe our instincts are faulty.
They want us to doubt our own eyes.
They want us to shrink our boundaries to keep the peace.
And while they do that, our safeguards erode.
Our protections get rewritten.
Our privacy gets questioned.
Our experiences get dismissed as exaggeration or confusion.
This is how systems maintain themselves — not by lack of evidence, but by teaching women to mistrust our own truth. To disregard the one person that we can actually depend on-ourselves.
It is a scheme. It is a scam. And women have every right to name it for what it is.
And yet, many of us see it clearly.
We know what erasure feels like.
We know when our protections are slipping away.
We know when the world is trying to talk us out of our own safety.
Their denial doesn’t make us wrong.
It makes us alert.