🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would never let that happen to you.”
But here’s [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesn’t always look like disbelief.It doesn’t always look [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
How Vision Boards Help Survivors Reclaim Their Future
For Survivors of trauma, the journey to healing isn’t just about moving on—it’s about reclaiming, redefining, and rebuilding. One powerful y [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join gro [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
9 Reasons Survivors Build Their Own Healing Spaces (and Why That’s Sacred, Not Segregated)
People ask:“Why do you need your own healing space?”The answer is layered. Personal. Collective. Sacred.
Here’s why so many of us—especia [...]
Are You Feeding Narcissistic Supply?
Narcissists hunger to have their needs met. If you’re in a close relationship with a narcissist, they expect you to supply them. The term “ [...]
We Don’t Police Each Other—We Challenge Power
Power.That’s the word they fear most when it rises in a Black woman’s mouth.
Our liberation will never be foundin tearing down each other’s choices.N [...]
What Happens When Women Reach Their Breaking Point: The Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Cost of Carrying Too Much for Too Long
When a human being, especially a woman who has been carrying others for too long, reaches her breaking point, several things can happen—physically, em [...]
Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-be [...]
🤲🏽 What Is Self-Trust? (And Why Is It So Hard After Abuse?)
Self-trust is the sacred belief that your own voice is worth listening to.It’s the quiet knowing inside that says:“I believe myself. I can rely [...]
Respect Without Surrender
It is possible — and necessary — for people to be respected, valued, and protected by law without being granted unconditional access to you.Respec [...]
Favorite Memoirs and Reads on Abuse, Rape, & Violence: Tonya GJ Prince
Greetings Readers,Books are a critical element to healing and understanding violence,
rape, and abuse. Book recommendations
are valued.Pleas [...]
Survivor Affirmations: My Health Story Matters and My Voice is Unafraid (video short)
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Disability and Reclaim My Voice (video short) | WE Survive Abuse [...]
Juneteenth: Proof That Even Our Freedom Is Seen as “Too Much”
Juneteenth is not just a holiday. It is a mirror—reflecting how this nation has long believed that Black people deserve nothing more than [...]
Healing is Yours: Beware the Micromanagers of Your Journey
Pain hurts like hell.
Let people heal.
As someone who has stood on both sides of the battle for healing—as a Survivor and an ad [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
The Ancient Words of Womanhood: Feminine Power Before ‘Femininity’
Know this: Long before present day calls for women to embrace our power,
women have been embracing our birthright power!- Tonya GJ Prince
In toda [...]
The Truth About External Validation: What It Builds, It Can Destroy
The Queen is the most powerful piece on the chess board.
We all need connection. We all need recognition. But when external validation becomes the [...]
Our Mental Health Crisis is a Values Crisis
We have made a choice.
Not quietly.Not accidentally.Not without consequence.
We have chosen to be a nation that does not guarantee authentic and tru [...]
Holiday Boundaries: Your Voice, Your Choice, Your Healing
The holidays carry a weight most people never see.For Survivors, gatherings can be a battlefield of memories, expectations, and unspoken wounds. [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update.Hi [...]
Love Doesn’t Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics used in abusive relationships. It’s when so [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
Gaslighting on a National Scale: Why Treating Black Women Like a Burden Is Abuse, Not Oversight
Don’t Call It a Favor
The nerve—the absolute gall—to act like you're doing us a favor by ending discrimination.
By “allowing” Black people, especial [...]
Primal Protection: The Little-Known Sleep Habit of Most Trauma Survivors
I saw this online from Dr. Mozelle Martin and wanted to share it. Self-awareness is a powerful thing, is it not? .-Tonya GJ Prince
(Trauma -includin [...]