We Are Not Meant to Disappear Inside Someone Else’s Reflection
There is a quiet war being waged on selfhood.A thousand little whispers telling women—and especially Black women, Indigenous women, and other [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me.[...]
20 Common Misconceptions About When and Why Survivors “Should Be Over the Pain”
Our nervous system doesn't comprehend "forgive & forget."
We can try to not think about trauma that happened to us-- but then we end up feelin [...]
💔 They Don’t Say She Was Loved — They Say She Stayed
Previous generations of women had different concerns because they had fewer options.
Let’s start there.Many of our grandmothers and great-gra [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many times they weren’t.
They thought that time would blur the memories,tha [...]
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Unhealthy Self-Esteem vs. Self-Compassion
Unhealthy Self Esteem vs Self Compassion by Tonya GJ PrinceWhy Self-Compassion is More Important than Self-Esteem elink.i [...]
What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They told us it meant never falling apart.Never crying.Never walking away.Never say [...]
Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
🕯️ Sandy’s Law: The Price She Paid, The Road She Built
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There are women today who believe that feminism is no longer needed.But sometimes the only reason it feels unnecessary is beca [...]
💔 Understanding Marital Rape: Consent Still Matters
In too many parts of the world—and even in the minds of too many people—rape inside of marriage is still not fully recognized as a crime.But here’ [...]
When Human Resources Protects Power, Not People: What the Sean Combs Case Reveals
The trial against music mogul Sean Combs is not just about one man’s alleged abuse—it is about the systems that allowed it to persist for deca [...]
🌿 What Is Healing?
I'm a plant Mom again. I didn't realize I was sensitive about it until I sent one of my relatives pictures of my plants.She didn't say anythin [...]
“They’ll Be Raped Anyway” Is Not a Strategy—It’s Cowardly a Surrender
Some people are not "foxhole" people. They surrender mid-battle.
You say,“Well, women will be raped anyway…”as if that justifies handing predators [...]
Gender Critical Thinkers: How Can We Speak of Freedom When So Many Women Still Can’t Speak at All?
A womanist does not enter this conversation as a spectator — we enter it as those who have lived inside the body that the world debates.
Long before [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
The Culture That Questions Women Before It Stops Men
Femicide.We keep saying it.“We can’t bring her back, but justice was served.”We say it after the trial.
After the sentencing.
After [...]
Creating Safe Spaces to Heal: How Black Women Make Room for Ourselves When the World Won’t
We weren’t handed safe spaces.We’ve had to build them from scratch—with whatever was in our hands,whatever was in our hearts,and sometimes, just w [...]
Healing Beyond the Pain: Exploring the Latest Technologies in Treating PTSD
For Survivors of abuse and violence, the road to healing from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is deeply personal and often fraught with ch [...]
Does Naming Ourselves Hurt Anyone? No. Erasing Us Does.
If the harm is sex-specific, the language has to be sex-specific.Especially for Black women.Especially in maternal health.
Black women have [...]
Healing is Yours: Beware the Micromanagers of Your Journey
Pain hurts like hell.
Let people heal.
As someone who has stood on both sides of the battle for healing—as a Survivor and an ad [...]
Future-Proofing Your Mind in an Unpredictable World
From guest contributor Jonathan Garner/shamekills.info. This blog post contains affiliate links. If you click on these links and make a purchase, [...]
What Are Pseudoseizures? Understanding Psychogenic Seizures in Trauma Survivors
Remember, trauma lives in the body........
Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES), are seizure-like episodes that look and feel like epileptic sei [...]
Saying Yes When You Mean No Is a Silent Form of Self-Betrayal
They will keep coming backto your spirit, your softness, your giving hands—as long as you let them.
But you were never meant to be the onewho saves e [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
The Relationship Between Power and Truth: Why Survivors Must Be Free to Speak
So women all over the globe started telling truths around violence, abuse, and sexual harassment. The next thing you [...]
This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind hands.They ask: Why didn’t she just go to the police?
But we know better.
We’ve [...]
Affirmations for Strength and Boundaries Around Black Women’s Humanity: Rooted in Baldwin’s Wisdom
"We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression
and denial of my humanity and right to exist."
-Jame [...]
How to Respond with Strength When Abusers Accuse You of Playing the ‘Victim’
Abusers accuse victimized people of “playing victim” because it serves as a power tactic. Here are the key reasons:1. Deflection of Respon [...]