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Stephanie Lyn: How to Distance Yourself

I like this video because it speaks to a very real danger. Emotionally abusive people are a threat to health and safety and sometimes distance is the

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I like this video because it speaks to a very real danger. Emotionally abusive people are a threat to health and safety and sometimes distance is the best choice for your particular season in life. 

Years ago I gave a speech on an experience that I had. Two of the women at the speaking engagement were critical of the fact that I didn’t do more to expose the abuser that I anonymously spoke about. Why didn’t I do more? Why didn’t I warn others? For several hours I doubted myself. Hard. 

It took awhile for me to get out of my feelings and come back to my reasonable mind. I am not a superhero. I am a woman with other people in my circle. The informed choice that I made saved not only my life, but the lives of the people that I love (including a then very young child). In a different season in my life, going rogue may have been worth it ….maybe.

But never when a small child’s life was also at possible risk. 

It was my last time sharing that story. I’ve got thousands of others but only because of my years of experiences with Survivors. I have lessons that working with strong people taught me.

We make it hard for Survivors to share their stories. Instead of listening to hear, learn and grow; we nitpick, question, and Monday morning quarterback. Our loss. 

Any way…..


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