Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or “making
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or “making men look bad.”
But listen—every woman’s safety needs are individual. What one woman feels comfortable with, another may not. What one woman can tolerate, another cannot. And that is her right.
We don’t owe conformity to males to keep anyone else comfortable. We don’t owe silence so others can pretend the world is safer than it is. The fact is, this IS an extremely dangerous world for women.
When women shame other women for protecting themselves, they do the work of abusers and predators for them. They silence us. They push us back into danger.
At We Survive Abuse, we refuse to participate in that.
Instead of shaming, we should be standing guard. We should be listening. We should be saying: Sister, I’ve got your back.
Because when women defend women, we all move closer to freedom.