Do Not Tell Black Women We Are Ineligible for Sex-Based Safety Measures Because Someone Else is Ignorant

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This is a disempowering time for women, but only if you allow it to be. 

These days it is en vogue for Black women to be told that because other people are hateful and cruel to women-especially Black women-  women do not deserve safety. As Black women, we are expected to tolerate the intolerable because “we should understand”.  We should understand what namecalling, outcasting, and slurring feels like. 

We do. But does that mean we should give people an the equivalent of a credit card with no limits to treat us any way they choose to because “we understand”?

Absolutely not. 

And, why would you repeat hate towards Black women and declare us ineligible for being concerned for our safety & equality based on the words of the ignorant members of our world citizenry?

If you agree with them, be brave. 

Just say, “I agree with the ignorant people. 

Everything else is time-wasting bs.

Do not give me more burdens to bear and try to make me believe that it is my lot in life to carry them because “I understand” what it feels like to be the target of other people’s vitriol. 

Recognizing Hate When You See It

None of the people who say these things like or love you, even if they look just like you.

 Protect your mind, body, and soul. 

The notion that Black women are not entitled to safety because other people have ignorant thoughts is not new. 

That raggedy theory has been used to:

• deny safety, 
• opportunities, 
• positions, 
• investments, 
• family, 
• equality, 
• property rights
• justice,  and
• peace to Black women 

for a very, very long time.

Remember that not nearly as many folks have ever said those same words to straight white males.  Who pushes any male to accept the bare minimum in life? 

Just because someone hates themselves doesn’t mean that you must too. And, spreading self-hate is violently dangerous.  There is no excuse or valid reason for denying safety to Black women.

 Please pay close attention to when you as a woman are being asked to do and accept something that not a single soul is likewise asking men to do or put up with. 

Stay Up. 

Stay Self Loved Up.