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“Until the lion learns to write, every story will 

glorify the hunter.”

– African Proverb

Tip Sheets

BEYOND THE EXTREMES: 5 Signs Grooming is Masking as Mentorship

♠ He Has Money—but the Lights Keep Getting Shut Off. That’s Not Forgetfulness

Is it financial abuse if he won’t pay the bills but buys things sometimes?

Share with someone who needs language for what they’re experiencing

Financial abuse isn’t always loud. Sometimes it looks like unpaid rent, late utilities, and constant stress—while the person responsible has the money. When someone refuses to pay shared bills on purpose, that is not disorganization.

That is control.

What Financial Abuse Looks Like When Bills Aren’t Paid

• Bills are skipped even though money is available

• Utilities get shut off while money is spent elsewhere

• You are blamed for “mismanaging” what was never given

• Gifts or random purchases are used to distract from unpaid essentials

• You are left to carry the financial burden alone

You are not “asking for too much” when you expect stability. You do not have to prove that you deserve it.

When He Won’t Pay the Bills: The Financial Abuse People Miss – WESurviveAbuse

What Wealth Hides About Abuse: Coercive Control in Affluent Relationships – WESurviveAbuse

The Truth About Divorce No One Says Out Loud: Why Women Are Still Trapped in the Same Home – WESurviveAbuse

The Role of Homeownership in Women’s Liberation: Domestic Violence and Homelessness (podcast/audio) – WESurviveAbuse

Political Action Alert: Where Can Any of Us Afford to Go If Home is a Violent Space? – WESurviveAbuse

Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money – WESurviveAbuse