“Until the lion learns to write, every story will
glorify the hunter.”
– African Proverb
Tip Sheets
BEYOND THE EXTREMES: 5 Signs Grooming is Masking as Mentorship
♠ He Has Money—but the Lights Keep Getting Shut Off. That’s Not Forgetfulness
Is it financial abuse if he won’t pay the bills but buys things sometimes?
Share with someone who needs language for what they’re experiencing
Financial abuse isn’t always loud. Sometimes it looks like unpaid rent, late utilities, and constant stress—while the person responsible has the money. When someone refuses to pay shared bills on purpose, that is not disorganization.
That is control.
What Financial Abuse Looks Like When Bills Aren’t Paid
Bills are skipped even though money is available
Utilities get shut off while money is spent elsewhere
You are blamed for “mismanaging” what was never given
Gifts or random purchases are used to distract from unpaid essentials
You are left to carry the financial burden alone
You are not “asking for too much” when you expect stability. You do not have to prove that you deserve it.
When He Won’t Pay the Bills: The Financial Abuse People Miss – WESurviveAbuse
What Wealth Hides About Abuse: Coercive Control in Affluent Relationships – WESurviveAbuse
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money – WESurviveAbuse