The illusion of neutrality is a weapon. When harm is done—when a woman speaks her truth and dares to name what broke her—there is always a moment. A
The illusion of neutrality is a weapon.
When harm is done—when a woman speaks her truth and dares to name what broke her—there is always a moment.
A moment where people pause.
Back away.
Look down.
Say things like:
“I don’t want to get involved.”
“I wasn’t there, so I can’t say.”
“I love you both.”
“I’m staying neutral.”
It sounds polite.
It sounds peaceful.
But in truth?
It’s complicity wrapped in comfort.
Because when harm is on the table, and you refuse to choose a side—you already have.
And whether you realize it or not, the side you’ve chosen is the one with power. The one with the microphone. The one whose behavior required silence in the first place.
You didn’t just step back.
You stood guard for the abuser.
Let’s tell the truth here.
Neutrality is a luxury of those who were never touched by the fire.
It’s a privilege to “not take sides” when your body was never the battleground.
When your voice was never the one trembling.
When your life wasn’t the one unraveling while everyone else kept attending brunch.
Women who’ve survived violation, manipulation, betrayal—they don’t need your neutrality.
🤎 They need your clarity.
🤎 They need your courage.
🤎 They need your solidarity.
“I love you both” is not healing when one of them is still bleeding.
“Let’s just move forward” is not peace when the past is still present in her nervous system.
“We’re not picking sides” is not wisdom when the harm hasn’t been confronted or named.
It just means you’ve chosen to protect comfort over truth.
Appearance over accountability.
Power over protection.
And that choice—conscious or not—serves the abuser, not the wounded.
So here’s what we’re not doing anymore:
We’re not calling it “mature” to be quiet in the face of abuse.
We’re not calling it “love” to silence one woman to keep another man comfortable.
We’re not pretending that spiritual bypassing, emotional gaslighting, or community-wide denial are forms of grace.
They are not.
They are fences built to cage the truth.
And to the woman who was left out, left behind, or left alone because people “didn’t want to take sides”:
✨ You were never the problem.
✨ Your voice is not too loud.
✨ Your truth is not too heavy.
Some people would rather live a lie than face a truth that requires them to change.
But you? You are sacred. You are strong. You are not alone.
The sisterhood that’s rising now is one that chooses the side of safety. The side of justice. The side of you.
