You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, “Stop doing that.” Too often, when violence is committed against a woman, men
You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, “Stop doing that.” 
Too often, when violence is committed against a woman, men’s responses follow a predictable script: blame her, shame her, guilt her. Pick apart her choices. Question her behavior. Search for the flaw in her instead of the harm in him.
Now — ask yourself:
How many times have you actually seen a man stand up to another man and say, “Stop harming her”?
When the man is related to the woman — a father, brother, cousin — this number rises. But if he doesn’t know her? That number stays in the basement.
Meanwhile, women — yes, women — are shaming, blaming, and guilting other women into:
Feeling sorry for abusive men.
Letting men trespass on the boundaries of women and children.
Pleading for mercy for them while the damage is still fresh.
This is how cycles of violence survive:
Silence from men who could intervene.
Pressure from women to protect the abuser’s reputation over the victim’s safety.
Until we break both patterns — until “Stop harming her” becomes an unshakable reflex — we are leaving women and children unprotected. And no amount of speeches about “respecting women” will mean a thing.
Affirmations: I Do Not Stand Alone
I am worthy of protection, even if no one speaks up.
My boundaries are valid — even when others ignore them.
I will not let the silence of others silence me.
I believe myself, even when others try to blame or shame me.
I will not plead for mercy for the person who harmed me.
My safety is my first loyalty.
I choose to stand with women and children over protecting abusers.
I will not be pressured into excusing violence.
I do not need permission to say, “Stop.”
My voice has power — and I will use it.
I release the expectation that those who can protect me will choose to.
I refuse to carry the weight of another’s abuse in my spirit.
I will not protect someone’s reputation at the cost of my own life.
I will not feel guilty for protecting myself or my children.
