For people who work with and serve victims of violence and abuse, violation of spiritual boundaries is common. I have seen women's entire families go
For people who work with and serve victims of violence and abuse, violation of spiritual boundaries is common. I have seen women’s entire families go against them to support an abusive man in the name of “religion” or “faith”.
Do they practice your faith and get everything right? Probably not.
Are they going to try to tell you how to practice it and what you are doing wrong? Absolutely.
Photo by Timothy Yiadom
Non religious or people who practice a different faith have to be mindful that we do not also use control tactics against women who practice faith. Women have come to advocates needing support in the work place, schools, etc… because people expect and demand control over women of faith.
🌿 What Are Spiritual Boundaries?
Spiritual boundaries are the invisible lines that protect your connection to what is sacred, nourishing, and true for you.
They’re the inner walls and gates that define:
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what beliefs you embrace,
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what spiritual practices feed your soul, and
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what energies, teachings, or people you allow to influence your spirit.
They are how you protect your peace and your faith while walking through a world that often tries to dictate how, when, or even if you should believe.
🌼 Examples of Healthy Spiritual Boundaries
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Knowing that your relationship with God, the Divine, or your ancestors is yours alone.
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Choosing where and with whom you pray, worship, or meditate.
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Declining to engage in spiritual debates that leave you drained or shamed.
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Saying no to those who use scripture or spirituality as tools of control.
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Holding space for silence, ritual, or solitude without needing to justify it.
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Recognizing that you can question, evolve, and grow — without losing your faith.
In essence: your spiritual boundary protects your sacred relationship with the Divine from being hijacked by other people’s agendas.
💔 How People Violate Spiritual Boundaries
Some examples:
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Spiritual Coercion
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Forcing you to pray, believe, or perform rituals their way.
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Saying “a real believer would…” or “if you were faithful, you’d…” to manipulate your actions.
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Spiritual Gaslighting
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Dismissing your spiritual experiences or revelations as “wrong” or “crazy.”
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Telling you your intuition or discernment isn’t valid unless they approve it.
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Religious Shaming
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Using scripture to guilt you for setting boundaries, leaving abuse, or seeking justice.
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Weaponizing forgiveness against you — demanding it as proof of holiness.
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🌺 The Healing Reversal
Reclaiming spiritual boundaries is holy work.
It’s saying: My faith is not for rent.
It’s remembering that God, ancestors, and Spirit chose to commune with you directly — not through someone else’s permission slip.
When you honor those boundaries, your spirit can breathe again.
You begin to heal not only from religious wounds, but from every place where your voice was told to hush in the name of “obedience.”
✨ Reflection Affirmation
“I am allowed to protect my spirit.
I am allowed to love God in the way my soul understands.
My peace is sacred.
My faith is my home — and I decide who crosses the threshold.”