The Performance of Ignorance: How Men Pretend Sexual Violence Is News.
There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deser [...]
30 Signs of a Dangerous Person: How to Protect Yourself from Manipulators & Predators
Unsafe people don’t always reveal their true nature immediately. They test boundaries, manipulate emotions, and gain trust before showing their worst [...]
They Weren’t Just Controlling—They Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone else’s reflection.
Some people weren’t looking for love.They were looking for someon [...]
When Women Must Explain Their Boundaries, Society Has Already Failed Them.
updated from November 5, 2025
Do you see how not one male is explaining his right to boundaries, just women and girls? You see how rested they are? T [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in denial, [...]
Predators Are Not Always Charismatic—Don’t Be Fooled by the Stereotype
Many people have a picture in their minds of what a predator looks like: charming, confident, manipulative, always in control. But let’s be clear—pred [...]
Violation is the Crime (Post Compilation)
I know everyone is short on time. So here's a post compilation.
One of the biggest obstacles to getting judges, attorneys, and political leaders to g [...]
When We Look Away: The Cost of Animal Abuse
Every minute in the United States, at least one animal is abused. That’s not metaphor—it’s fact. Behind every tick of the clock is a life mistreated, [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
Alleged “Male Loneliness” is Causing Men to Come Up With Bizarre Ideas
Women, start flipping tables everywhere you go. How hard is it to just stop being violent and abusive? How difficult is it to finally recognize th [...]
Ride Hail Assault Isn’t Rare—It’s Underreported
updated August 2025
Every day, people step into rideshare vehicles hoping to get from point A to point B. But some never make it there safely.
Ride [...]
More Safe Spaces for Women Now: Even in the US, Women Are Dying in a System That Limits Their Escape
There are moments that should stop us. Not just emotionally, but structurally. As we reflect on the loss of women and children, the question is n [...]
30 Red Flags of Unsafe People: How to Spot Them Early
Some people are simply unsafe. Whether in personal relationships, workplaces, social settings, movements, politics, or online spaces, unsafe individ [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
Why Leaving an Abusive Relationship Is a Process—Not Just a Decision
Because: leaving an abusive relationship is not a single event—it’s a complex, emotional, and often life-threatening process.
Here are the real reaso [...]
“She Wasn’t Told He Killed Before: The Tragic Workplace Murder of Kerri Harris and the Warning Signs We Can’t Ignore”
Women are significantly more likely to be victims of stalking.
Approximately 1 in 3 women have experienced stalking at some point in thei [...]
Stop Handing Out Character References When a Woman Is Talking About Risk
The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm.
There is a pattern that keeps sho [...]
When Your Strength Makes Them Angry
Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong just for standing in your own power.
You say no.You speak up.You leave.You choos [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
When Technology Becomes a Weapon: What You Need to Know About Cyberstalking and Deepfake Abuse
People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime. Cyberstalking looks like: Following you from platform to platform, even after [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
Prevent it-Trauma is Traumatizing.
This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. Some are in prison. Some are in b [...]
Mahogany: Beyond Fashion, a Lesson in Power and Abuse 💔
Mahogany is often celebrated for its style—but the film also quietly shows obsession, control, and emotional abuse.
But beneath that glossy surface [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
Silenced Prey: Unsolved murders of Black women in Chicago leave puzzling pattern
https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/betrayal-blindness-the-cost-of-ignoring-harm/ https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/lets-not-confuse-two-differ [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic, and silencing.
Here’s how it works—over and over again: 1. Women Set Bound [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]