10 Ways Society Trains Women to Doubt Their Own Safety Instincts
Many women can remember a moment when their instincts spoke clearly.A feeling in the stomach.
A tightening in the chest.
A quiet inner voice say [...]
Why Listening to Women’s Pain Feels Hard—And Why It Matters More Than We Admit
I was confused by my own exhaustion.
I had spent years doing what some people think is the hardest part of advocacy.
Helping women find shel [...]
Rethinking ‘Capitalist’: Point It Toward Human Traffickers, Not Black Communities
For the love of money.......
Some of us grew up knowing what capitalist meant.It wasn’t a cheap clapback.It was a serious word—meant to name and ch [...]
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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2
Original post 9/23/15 7. Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized. They have questions.
Q: How many i [...]
12 Most Alarming Revelations Ann Rule Shared About Knowing Ted Bundy
Ann Rule is one of my faves. I liked her long before I started hearing about her connection to Ted Bundy. Her insight into the tragic stories she told [...]
If the Harm Is Precise, Our Words Must Be Precise
I see you. You see me. We see one another.
There are groups who are targeted because of who they are — yet the moment they try to name that truth, pe [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”
updated from August 7 2025
Remember now, plenty of wives and children around the world are very nice to men who think nothing of harming them in an i [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-down worldvi [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.”
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
What Does It Really Mean To Be Socialized As a Woman?
To be socialized as a woman means to be trained — subtly and overtly — in what the world expects from those born female. It’s a lifetime of unspoken l [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
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Graduation Season Brings a New Season of Hope in Combatting Domestic Abuse
Heartfelt condolences to the loved ones of all of these persons who have been senselessly taken from this life.It is graduation season.I'm excit [...]
Access to Women Is Not a Male Human Right
There is something deeply revealing about the world we live in.
You cannot rent a car without agreeing to terms....and a credit card.
You cannot lea [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language.Too often, th [...]
Please Stop Telling Survivors, “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far.” History Says Otherwise.
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact:
Before his murders were discovered, Bundy did volunteer at a suicide crisis hotline in [...]
✊🏾 Teaching Before the Harm: The Difference Between Comfort and Safety
“We learn too late because no one taught us soon enough.
Let this be the generation that teaches before the harm.”
Comfort feels nice.
Safety keeps [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a world that often confuses access with equa [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety.
But lately, women and Survivors are being told to prove our goodness by staying sil [...]
Sexual Assaults at American Festivals: Freaknik
In the beginning, there was fun!Freaknik, a spring break party and young Black cultural gathering held in Atlanta, Georgia, was started in the 1980s b [...]
“Why Can’t I Say She Made a Bad Choice?”
We hear it all the time.
“She knew he was violent.”“We warned her.”“She got mad at us for trying to help.”“Why can’t I say she made a bad choice?”
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Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says:“Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How could it not? There's love or at least caring there.
But apologies from abusers [...]