How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How could it not? There's love or at least caring there.
But apologies from abusers [...]
“Why Can’t I Say She Made a Bad Choice?”
We hear it all the time.
“She knew he was violent.”“We warned her.”“She got mad at us for trying to help.”“Why can’t I say she made a bad choice?”
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30 Signs of a Dangerous Person: How to Protect Yourself from Manipulators & Predators
Unsafe people don’t always reveal their true nature immediately. They test boundaries, manipulate emotions, and gain trust before showing their worst [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably dates losers”) to mock, sha [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the DoubtWe’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got [...]
Why Listening to Women’s Pain Feels Hard—And Why It Matters More Than We Admit
I was confused by my own exhaustion.
I had spent years doing what some people think is the hardest part of advocacy.
Helping women find shel [...]
WE Deserve Justice: Law Firm Helps Others Seek Justice by Filing Sex Abuse Claims Against Care Facilities And Trust-Based Settings
*This post is unpaid, uncompensated and unaffiliated. For informational purposes and not a recommendation. As always, please ask aro [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says:“Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
The Manifestation of Emotional Abuse Can Alter Your Life? – Out Loud With Claudia Jordan
“People think it’s easy to just leave a toxic relationship. But what they don’t see is how it starts. Just like Claudia said (on another show)—it [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
Lucy Diggs Slowe: She Protected Us in Silence So We Could One Day Speak
“Because boundaried spaces don’t build themselves—someone has to brave the silence first.”[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Most people will tell you Lucy Diggs S [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
Why Some Survivors Are Alarmed by the Push to Redefine Womanhood as An Aesthetic
It is harder to ignore now.
Some people noticed it earlier but now it is getting harder to ignore isn't it?
Across cultures, languages, and generati [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
If the Harm Is Precise, Our Words Must Be Precise
I see you. You see me. We see one another.
There are groups who are targeted because of who they are — yet the moment they try to name that truth, pe [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, tired of grieving alone, and tired of sy [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
There is a belief too many refuse to name—because to name it would reveal the lie.
It is the belief that:“No space should ever be off-limits to [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
✊🏾 Teaching Before the Harm: The Difference Between Comfort and Safety
“We learn too late because no one taught us soon enough.
Let this be the generation that teaches before the harm.”
Comfort feels nice.
Safety keeps [...]
How Society Continues to Enable Abuse and Violation of Women and Girls in Sports
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Rosa Parks: A Stealth Strategist Against Deceit, Manipulation, and Violence
updated from January 6, 2025 with new links and information
Let's be honest, the word "gaslighting" gets thrown around a lot these days. But for thos [...]
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Believing Everyone Plays Fair? Here’s How It Backfires (Infographic)
Believing everyone respects boundaries is a hopeful but dangerous assumption in a world where power dynamics, intent, and experiences vary great [...]
He Harmed Who He Harmed — Not Who He Told the World He Wanted
People keep acting like a man’s sexual identity is a character reference.
They say things like:
“He likes women.”“He has a girlfriend. [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women
Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women."
We’ve heard it too many times [...]