Please Stop Telling Survivors, “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far.” History Says Otherwise.
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact:
Before his murders were discovered, Bundy did volunteer at a suicide crisis hotline in [...]
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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2
Original post 9/23/15 7. Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized. They have questions.
Q: How many i [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
Politicians Must Stop Dismissing Us: Women’s Safety is Non-Negotiable
Political leaders must prioritize the rights women need in our own right—not just the ones tied to men.
Yes, women must have the right to make ou [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
We Warned You: The Deadly Price Black Women Pay for Social Justice Experiments by The Way She Came
One thing I have learned about life on this planet, people just act like it goes against everything that they believe to listen to Black women.
Th [...]
He Harmed Who He Harmed — Not Who He Told the World He Wanted
People keep acting like a man’s sexual identity is a character reference.
They say things like:
“He likes women.”“He has a girlfriend. [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient global wi [...]
Why Sexual Orientation Has Nothing to Do with School Shootings
So after yesterday's tragic shooting in Minneapolis, Minnesota-which took the lives of two innocent children, injured 18 others, and traumatized too m [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peaceIt starts with a bad decision.Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
The Pressure to “Be Nice” While Male Violence Goes Excused
If ever you have any question about which people in the room are women:It will be the ones in the room pushed to "be nice" or "be kind"
The [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
“Why Can’t I Say She Made a Bad Choice?”
We hear it all the time.
“She knew he was violent.”“We warned her.”“She got mad at us for trying to help.”“Why can’t I say she made a bad choice?”
[...]
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Graduation Season Brings a New Season of Hope in Combatting Domestic Abuse
Heartfelt condolences to the loved ones of all of these persons who have been senselessly taken from this life.It is graduation season.I'm excit [...]
When “Nothing Will Happen” Isn’t a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
“If your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences?”When certainty replaces [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
When Male Violence is Excused, Progress Stalls
If females were the majority of mass shooters, the world would treat it very differently. There would be no long delays in public debate, no endle [...]
Violation is the Crime (Post Compilation)
I know everyone is short on time. So here's a post compilation.
One of the biggest obstacles to getting judges, attorneys, and political leaders to g [...]
The Patriarchy’s Secret Weakness | Why Withdrawal Works (video by Therese)
"Misogyny doesnt show up as hate, it shows up as expectations"Patriarchy is not just a system of laws. It is a ghost we keep alive by feeding it. [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
Coercion in Disguise: When Love Asks You to Lie
When someone pressures a woman to lie, to go against her beliefs, her conscience, her values, her faith, or her integrity—that is not love. That is [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
10 Ways Society Trains Women to Doubt Their Own Safety Instincts
Many women can remember a moment when their instincts spoke clearly.A feeling in the stomach.
A tightening in the chest.
A quiet inner voice say [...]
What Is Trauma? A Simple Explanation (w/Quotes)
*Note: This is meant to be an elementary explanation. It came out of a conversation. Sometimes you realize you are speaking but your words are not r [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, tired of grieving alone, and tired of sy [...]
30 Signs of a Dangerous Person: How to Protect Yourself from Manipulators & Predators
Unsafe people don’t always reveal their true nature immediately. They test boundaries, manipulate emotions, and gain trust before showing their worst [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]