Category: Loving Safely
đź“Ś Allyship Is Not a Dating Obligation
Let’s make something abundantly clear:
Being an ally to a group, a [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that [...]
🚩 Entitlement to Women’s Choices Is Misogyny—No Matter Who It Comes From
Some men hear “no” and immediately rewrite the story in their heads:“S [...]
Healing Changed Me—And Some People Only Loved the Version of Me Who Didn’t Know Her Worth
A post for the Survivor who’s outgrowing relationships built on thei [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to po [...]
Detachment Is Not Coldness—It’s Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To “love him through it.”To pou [...]
Power Doesn’t Always Mean Protection—And That’s the Problem
I’ve worked with women in power.Judges. Prosecutors. City council me [...]
💣 In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You They’re Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesn’t take a [...]
Your Defense of Them Is a Betrayal of Me
Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.For the [...]
She Wasn’t Weak. He Was Dishonest.
We need to talk about the way society punishes women for being manipul [...]
We Didn’t Come Here to Be Palatable
We did not come here to be pleasant.We did not come here to repeat w [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may [...]
You Were Expected to Bleed Quietly So They Could Stay Comfortable
They didn’t just hurt you—They expected you to stay silent about it.
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They Don’t Deserve to Witness the Healed You if They Mocked the Broken You
Let’s stop romanticizing reconciliation with people who ridiculed yo [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many t [...]
They Called You Too Much—But What You Were Was Too Aware
You were never too much.You were too awake.
You noticed what others [...]
Walking Away Isn’t Weak. It’s the Bravest Thing You Ever Did.
They told you walking away meant you gave up.That you weren’t strong [...]
You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they ro [...]
They Don’t Miss You. They Miss the Version of You That Didn’t Know Better
Let’s tell the truth today.
Sometimes when people say they “miss you, [...]
Shaming Survivors Is How You Build an Abuser’s Paradise
You want to know how abusers thrive in families, churches, and communi [...]
