Category: Loving Safely
Why Body Safety for Black Women Must Include Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Reproductive Justice: Honoring Adriana Smith
When we talk about Adriana Smith, especially online, we must remembe [...]
Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. We [...]
🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especi [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet. [...]
⚠️ Sometimes Male Agitation Is Not Just a “Bad Mood”
It Can Be a Ramp-Up to Violence. Especially Against the Vulnerable.
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🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were dif [...]
When It’s No Longer Safe to Stay Attached
Move With a Flow That Honors You
(inspired by your closing words—soft [...]
When Setting Boundaries Feels Wrong (But It’s Actually You Healing)
"We don't warn one another how hard this part is."
Sometimes setting [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe t [...]
🚩 5 Signs You’re Facing Control Disguised as Concern
1. They Center Their Comfort Over Your Safety
If your boundary causes [...]
Why Setting Boundaries Feels Like Breaking Rules You Never Agreed To
You finally speak up.You say, “I can’t do that.”You say, “I don’t feel [...]
The More You Heal, the More You Offend Those Who Don’t Want To
Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash— [...]
5 Reasons Abusive People See Your Boundaries as Unnecessary
When you begin to heal, grow, or protect yourself, one of the first [...]
💔 They’ve Been Ignoring Our Pain for Generations. But We Still Feel It.
On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social me [...]
📌 Allyship Is Not a Dating Obligation
Let’s make something abundantly clear:
Being an ally to a group, a [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declar [...]
🚩 Entitlement to Women’s Choices Is Misogyny—No Matter Who It Comes From
Some men hear “no” and immediately rewrite the story in their heads:“S [...]
Healing Changed Me—And Some People Only Loved the Version of Me Who Didn’t Know Her Worth
A post for the Survivor who’s outgrowing relationships built on thei [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to po [...]