Category: Self Love
Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, [...]
Courtesy or Compelled Speech? Why the Difference Matters
There’s a difference between choosing courtesy and being forced into c [...]
Every Woman Deserves to Be Heard in the Delivery Room
Please pay close attention to this woman's story and her words.&nb [...]
Reclaiming Anna Julia Cooper: Why Black Women’s Liberation Is Not a Call to Self-Sacrifice
1. The Distortion of Cooper’s Vision
Some have taken Cooper’s line t [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once:“The first time he raised his voice again [...]
When Black Women Are Targeted for Questioning What Others Pretend Not to See
There was another time I learned just how selective feminism and women [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Protecting MY Empathy, Protecting Me
People tend to treat Black women like our empathy is a faucet that y [...]
You Can’t Reason With People Who See Facts as a Personal Attack
One of life’s hardest lessons is this: you cannot reason with people w [...]
Dear Women: No Man’s Negative Voice Belongs in Your Head
Dear women, let’s get this straight: no man’s negative voice deserves [...]
False Strength vs. True Safety: What Real Protectors Look Like
It isn’t enough to expose the myths about unkind men pretending to b [...]
10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of [...]
The Dangerous Myth: Why Unkind Men Are Not Protectors of Women
Hollywood movies and the biased media have taught us well. Too well.
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🚫 Where the Real Toxicity Lies: Boundaries, Consent, and Culture
In recent years, we’ve seen debates play out over whether actors—or a [...]
Why Defending Your Boundaries Doesn’t Make You Hateful—It Makes You Strong
And we know how people feel about strong women.It is deeply di [...]
When Our Words Teach Them What’s “Normal” About Violence
If we’re spending more time excusing violence—saying we “understand” o [...]
Why Wise Women Guard Their Circles: Avoiding Those Who Defend Violence
This is must not only for your survival, but the quality of your livin [...]
When the World ONLY Rewards Women for Being Agreeable
"Be kind."As if this hasn't been a necessary part of most (not [...]
Why Boundaried Spaces Matter for Women and Girls
Spaces Are Never Neutral
Every room, circle, or gathering carries int [...]
Holistically Rah: You need to stop being nice and start being selfish
Like Holistically Rah, I once built my whole personality around being [...]
When Belief Becomes a Cage
Belief is powerful. It shapes how we see the world, how we raise our c [...]