Category: Self Love
How Abusers and Systems Use “You Have It Good” to Normalize Deprivation
Gratitude is something I practice as a core part of my healing.
But a [...]
Anger Isn’t Ruining Your Healing. Silence Did. (10 Quick Reclamation Tips)
For a long time, many of us were taught that anger was the danger. [...]
10 Important Things I Might Be Unlearning on My Healing Journey
1. That my pain has to be “explained well” to be real.
My body al [...]
They Love What We Give, Not Who We Are: The Quiet Erasure of Women’s Inner Lives
When we say, “He objectified her,” we make it sound like mere casual d [...]
50 Times We Walked Past You—Our Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not ou [...]
When the Whole World Is Watching: It Takes a Super Human Commitment to Self-Care to Leave
updated from May 23 2025
Leaving an abusive relationship is never e [...]
Alleged “Male Loneliness” is Causing Men to Come Up With Bizarre Ideas
Women, start flipping tables everywhere you go. How hard is it to just [...]
Survivors Who Speak Up Become Light for the Rest of Us
Young people say: I don't believe women and girls should have to be st [...]
Pam Taught Us Some Things: Why Tichina Arnold Always Deserves Our Love
I grew up in a generation that was outside. Young people watching [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, i [...]