Category: Self Love
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.Sometimes it’s not just the pe [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predato [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rare [...]
What Is Agency—and What Does It Have to Do with Your Safety?
✨ You Hear It All the Time These Days: “Agency.” But What Does That Ac [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve [...]
Affirmations for Women Who Are Tired of Being Strong All the Time
Because you shouldn’t have to hold the whole world just to be loved, s [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth)You’ve left the relationsh [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If [...]
How to Know You’re Not Safe—Even If No One’s Hitting You
(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs)
If you’ve ever wondered, “ [...]
You Shrink So Others Don’t Feel Threatened
But What Happens When You Stop?
The Sign:You minimize your gifts, you [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of survivi [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were tol [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud [...]
Why “I Don’t Care About Potential Harm-Doers” Sounds Empowering But Isn’t
We get it.You’re tired of tiptoeing.You’re tired of warning signs, red [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often f [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people w [...]
Why Manipulators Pretend to Share Your Values (Even When They Don’t)
Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your value [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. [...]
