Celebrity trials that encompass domestic violence and rape annoy me. A whole lot of people get to talking about victims like they know them. Peop
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Celebrity trials that encompass domestic violence and rape annoy me. A whole lot of people get to talking about victims like they know them.
People who never met the victim want to tell her story for her.
They’ll say she was naive.
Too trusting.
Too weak.
They’ll say she should have known better.
But let’s get something straight:
Her story isn’t about weakness.
It’s about what happens when the people and systems that should protect you—don’t.
She didn’t fall.
She was pushed.
Pushed by manipulation.
By charm weaponized as a trap.
By people who smiled in her face and sided with her abuser in private.
She learned the hard way:
Some people don’t need the truth to turn on you. They just need power.
She saw how quickly “trusted” friends looked away.
How professionals lost interest when things got messy.
How even the most “progressive” voices still asked,
“What did you do?”
So no, this isn’t about her being weak.
It’s about her being targeted.
And betrayed.
And then forced to navigate a system that treats Survivors like suspects.
She doesn’t tell her story for attention.
She tells it because silence almost killed her.
And still—still—people want to question her strength.
But here’s what they never see:
The courage it takes to get up and parent while your heart is shattered.
The bravery of saying, “He hurt me,” knowing some will never believe you.
The resilience of building a life from scratch, while dodging his shadow every step of the way.
The wisdom it takes to see through people, even as they smile and offer help with strings attached.
She knows now who can’t be trusted.
And that knowing didn’t come easy.
She earned that knowledge.
Through the fire.
Through the gaslighting.
Through the betrayal dressed up in church clothes and credentials.
So if you’re looking at her and still trying to make it about weakness…
You weren’t paying attention.
She’s not weak.
She’s awake.
She’s aware.
She’s rebuilding in the ashes of every lie ever told about her.
See, the one thing about these celebrity trials is that it is a calling to other victims. Victims who are coming into their own voices…..
And this time—
they are not asking anyone for permission to speak truth.
