There is no hate here. No hatred of any man, or of how he chooses to live or express himself. Not even who he chooses to love.WeSurviveAbuse was neve
There is no hate here.
No hatred of any man, or of how he chooses to live or express himself. Not even who he chooses to love.
WeSurviveAbuse was never built on hate—it was intentionally built on healing, protection, love, hope, joy, and truth.
But love and safety are not built on surrender.
It is not in any woman’s best interest to give up her space, her opportunities, or her rights simply because a man says so. Because he says that you should.
That you ought to. That you need to. That you must.
That is not kindness. That is not fairness. That is coercion dressed in new language.
Our foremothers taught us that peace without dignity is not peace at all. A woman’s boundaries are not signs of bitterness or hate—they are sacred guardrails that keep life, community, and sanity intact.
When we say “no,” we are not closing the door on others.
We are keeping the door of self-respect open for ourselves and for every woman, young lady, and girl who will come after us.
Women’s rights are not up for negotiation because they make someone else uncomfortable. A woman’s privacy, safety, and well-being are not optional accessories—they are essentials. These are not gifts to be handed out according to who asks the sweetest, slings the most ignorant insults, or shouts the loudest.
We are not against anyone living in peace. We are for women and children living in peace, too.
And in a world that too often demands that women give up comfort, safety, and voice for the sake of harmony, we stand firm: true harmony includes her.
To honor a woman’s boundaries is to honor her humanity. To pressure her to surrender them is to repeat the oldest harm in history—one that silenced generations before us.
We will not repeat it.
Affirmation
My boundaries are sacred ground.
They are not walls of hate, but fences of care—built to protect life, peace, and the divine within me.
Reflection Prompt
Where in my life am I being asked to call surrender “kindness” when it is really self-erasure?