#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girlâs truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world. They tried to make her shame [...]
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Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated)
(Updates below) Remember when they yelled: "This never happens." This tragedy was always preventable.Reaction audio: 4:23Grand ju [...]
Because She Sang, We Speak: Honoring Billie Holidayâs Legacy of Truth
If you are silent about your pain, they will kill you and say that you enjoyed it.- Zora Neale Hurston
Before there were hashtags.Before there were v [...]
They Werenât Just ControllingâThey Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone elseâs reflection.
Some people werenât looking for love.They were looking for someon [...]
Predators Donât Play by the Same Rules
Thereâs something deeply dangerous about how weâre taught to think about harmâand especially about the people who cause it.
Weâre told:âIf someone wa [...]
Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't capable of violence silences Survivors of [...]
The One Question Every Parent of a Girl Must Ask Themselves
Memory Lane (2000's) âNo!â âNobody kisses me! Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,â (and the list went [...]
How We Are Getting Played by Rapists & Abusers
Updated from 7/1/15The Pied PiperWhen I was a kid, there was a "children's story" that scared me to death.The Pied Piper was a story based o [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
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Scouts Honor: The Secret Files of Boy Scouts of America is on Netflix
 This is another MUST-SEE! From this storytelling perspective we can see: Avoidance & discouragement of parental notificati [...]
Organizations Endorsing Sexualizing Children: World Health Organization
We no longer have time to be shocked, surprised, and astonished. Once reliable organizations that could be depended upon are blatantly and [...]
Sexual Violence Against Black Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them
updated from original post on 12/15/2015So last night I Twitter watched one of my favorite shows. A true crime show. You c [...]
The Healing Isnât in the Headlines. Itâs in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
WE Deserve Justice: Law Firm Helps Others Seek Justice by Filing Sex Abuse Claims Against Care Facilities And Trust-Based Settings
*This post is unpaid, uncompensated and unaffiliated. For informational purposes and not a recommendation. As always, please ask aro [...]
If We Were Better We Would Be Prioritizing Silenced Children And Not Grown Men
This is how the rest of us end up in therapy for yearssss. Dealing with people who run to console, protect, and shield grown sturdy men and not hurtin [...]
Revisting the Silencing of Silenced Women and Girls: R Kelly
 When the groundbreaking documentary Surviving RKelly (produced by Dream Hampton) came out, people were amazed.
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There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
Predators Be Like: “Don’t Tell Your Parents” (Faithful background)
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Predators are not hard to figure out. If someone tells you not to tell your parents, they mean you no good.
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Predators Be Like: Only I [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits âpause.â It doesnât wa [...]
â ïž Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025 Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite showsâGreenleaf on OWN. If youâve ever watched it, you know [...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our truths can empower others to d [...]
Truth-Telling Is Not âRace Talk.â Itâs Course Correction.
Saying âBlack womanâ is not race discourse.Itâs not divisive.Itâs not inflammatory.Itâs accuracy in the field of violence and abuse â a field that h [...]
đŻïž For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors donât report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
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8 Common Characteristics of People Who Support and Enable Abusive People (Infographic)
Some people find truth-telling to be abhorrent and offensive. -TGJPLINK elink.io | See Original [...]
What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist
Did I tell yâall about that time that they printed a speech I delivered in public in the paper? Well, that isnât even the most interestin [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
âWhen the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.â
Why do men kill women?
Too often, itâs not because o [...]
Reshona Landfair: Jane Doe in R. Kelly’s sex tape reclaims name and shares her story
Adults. Adults can either create safety or harm. We play a hand in upholding abusers and harmers of children. A larger part than we want to admit. [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
5 Reasons Why the Silence Around Abuse Isn't Golden
They say "silence is golden". No, it isn't, it's tarnished and rusty on the edges. At least when it comes to abuse it is.Allow m [...]
‘ER’ Star Anthony Edwards Says Hollywood Big Shot Molested Him As A Teen
As an advocate, I have worked with male Survivors as colleagues, as a volunteer in organizations, and as the person that they confided in about being [...]
Letter from an Angry Survivor of Sexual Violence about this Bill Cosby Tragedy
7/7/2015 Tonight I am angry.Â
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That isn't my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to d [...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and RespectâEspecially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
That includes the right to privacy, safety, and dignityâespecially for young women [...]
Telling the Truth Is Not Blame: Responsibility, Survival, and Complicity in a World That Harms Women
âAmerica has the laws and the material resources it takes to insure justice for all its people.
What it lacks is the heart, the humanity.â
~ Shirl [...]
Unveiling the Dark History of Gynecology | Ill Will
In this eye-opening first episode of "Ill Will," host A.B. Burns-Tucker is joined by Dr. Keisha Ray to dive into the troubling history of gynecology's [...]
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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2
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The Hideous Scars of Child Sexual Abuse: Self Doubt
Self-doubt.Â
I think that one reason that some people can't understand sexual violence is they don't understand just how complicated it really i [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?â The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
Weâve all heard it: âOnly 2% of white people "owned" slaves.âItâs a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But hereâs the truth: itâs not th [...]
New Survey: 1 in 10 Men Have Carried Out Sex Offenses Against Children
Here we go again......another truth that has been ignored because it came from the mouths of women and children. New research suggests 1 in 10 [...]
Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 1
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This way, if I was triggered, I could watch it another time [...]
When Silence is Taught, Suffering is Inherited: How Childhood Conditioning Sets the Stage for Abuse
Some lessons arenât written in books.Some are taught in the hush of a disappointed glance, a side eye when you spoke up, punishment for being a natura [...]
8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse
So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night. Every night without fail. And every night without fail, this would happen [...]
24 More Phrases People Use to Try to Silence Survivors of Sexual Violence
Updated on 4/11/22 from 7/14/2016I now know why my Granny, Grandma Monroe, Aunt, and Mama encouraged me to get quiet when a storm rolled in. &nbs [...]
20 Common Misconceptions About When and Why Survivors “Should Be Over the Pain”
Our nervous system doesn't comprehend "forgive & forget."Â
We can try to not think about trauma that happened to us-- but then we end up feelin [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: Itâs Not Harmless. Itâs Harm.
Catfishing isnât just a little lie or a âlonely person trying to connect.â Itâs deception wrapped in manipulation.
People build entire false identiti [...]
Reckoning Is Not Chaos. It Is Correction.(w/Affirmations)
We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now.
We arrived here [...]
What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common
Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:The problem of black men who prey upon black girls/boys must be discussed and addresse [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of âinclusionâ to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
Stop Calling Children âUnderage Womenâ: How Language Is Used to Soften Harm Against Girls
No.
We are not doing that word-washing anymore. Not after what we had to read. Not after people had to live through.....or not live thr [...]
đ©ž Theyâve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
đ©ž Theyâve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, menâparticularly those in power [...]
The Manipulative Power of Changing Language
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Her: I need a protective order.
Judge: Did he actually say that he would kill you?
Her:Â Well....no but he said,
"That's okay I will take [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenyaâs âMadamsâ
SELF CARE ALERT This one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself. "Theyâre still children, so itâs easy to manipu [...]
Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be kind". Â
If #MeToo got us talking and [...]
The Ongoing Tragedy of Abuse of Child Stars in Film, TV, and Music
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Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Canât Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.Â
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
Consent Is Not an Afterthought. It Is the First Requirement
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
Letâs make this plain:Consent is not a footnote.It is not a favor.It is not a vibe, a guess, or something you assume after yo [...]
The Eye of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: A Black Man Takes the Mic
It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and offers advice for healing:  Hi. My n [...]
Why Donât We Talk About Black Men Who Survived Childhood Abuse?
There are stories we rarely let breathe. The stories of Black men who were once Black boys â hurt, silenced, told to âman up,â told t [...]
đ Summer Safety Alert: Predators Count on Your DistractionsâDonât Let Them
Yes, itâs summer again.
And while many of us are focused on camps, cookouts, rest, and routine changesâsome people are focused on y [...]
6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse
Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children. I realize that some of them might be a bit concerned. When someone [...]
The Lost Secret of Child Sexual Abuse: I Love a Survivor, My Pain Has a Voice Too
ImagineImagine your loved one was a victim of child sexual violence. You wanted to help. You wanted to take action. You wanted family, c [...]
Keeping Children Safe in School: Body Safety
Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated) | WE Survive Abuse WE Can't Afford to Repeat the Mistakes of (PIE) Paedophile Information E [...]
Youâre Not Her Judge. Youâre Not Even Helpful.
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The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivorâs choices is the same as offering help.Itâs not. [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Donât Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a world that often confuses access with equa [...]
đ The Right to Speak: What a Difference a Voice Makes
Updated for 2025 Silence
âYou have the right to remain silent.â
I first heard that phrase in my 8th grade Civics class during the lesson on Miran [...]