For the woman who’s been told her standards are too high—stand taller. Sister,Let’s tell the truth today. They say:“That’s just how men are.”“
For the woman who’s been told her standards are too high—stand taller.
Sister,
Let’s tell the truth today.
They say:
“That’s just how men are.”
“If you want love, you’re going to have to accept some baggage.”
“Nobody’s perfect, so why are you being so picky?”
But let me ask you this:
When did being selective become a sin?
When did protecting your peace become proof that you’re “bitter”?
When did the bare minimum become an audacious request?
No.
What they’re really trying to do is normalize your erosion.
To convince you to shrink in the name of “compromise”,
To silence your intuition and call it “judgmental”,
To make you question your own right to rest, to joy, to a love that does not make you ache.
Let’s break that lie wide open.
🎭 Manipulative Normalization is Not Wisdom
When they tell you that every man comes with baggage,
What they often mean is:
“You should expect to be burdened, broken, and blamed—because it’s just easier that way.”
But Ma’am, you are not baggage claim.
You are not the lost & found for unhealed men.
You are not a therapist, a rehab, or a karmic payment plan.
You were not born to be someone’s emotional mule.
🔥 You Have Every Right to Say:
“Everyone has a story, but not every story belongs in my life.”
“My peace matters.”
“I’m not obligated to carry what someone else refuses to unpack.”
Say it again and again until it lives in your bones.
🛑 Let’s be clear:
You are not mean for refusing chaos.
You are not heartless for guarding your joy.
You are not unrealistic for expecting to be loved and not drained.
What’s unrealistic is a world that keeps asking women to mother grown men, to settle for suffering, and to wear it like it’s a badge of honor.
💎 Woman of Worth, Hear Me:
You deserve a love that does not leak.
A presence that does not provoke panic.
A partner who carries his own load.
You deserve ease.
You deserve rest.
You deserve someone who’s done the work, not someone who expects you to be the workplace.
✨ Closing Call:
The next time someone tells you, “That’s just how men are,”
You look them straight in the eye and say:
“Then I’ll wait for a different kind of man—or I’ll keep my peace in the meantime.”
Because you are not less for walking away.
You are wise.
You’re not being unloving.
You’re being unavailable to harm.
And in this season?
That’s not cold-hearted.
That’s holy.
