When did we all agree to make professional female carers and providers the new global target?

Which political leaders are speaking for women’s professional rights?

Photo by Laura James

So just to catch you up, here is a link to the last post on Nurse Jennifer Melle—->>>>

“The Jennifer Melle Case: When Women’s Safety Loses to Male Protection — Even for a Convicted Child Predator”

Ugandan British Nurse Punished for Calling Convicted Male Pedophile “Mr” (update)

“If we are not able to ask skeptical questions, to interrogate those who tell us that something is true — if we are unwilling to question authority — then we’re just putty in the hands of those in power.”

Professor Carl Sagan

People would have you to believe that your questions and concerns around gender and pronouns are about hate for others. That is not true. That is about shutting down questions and concerns.

A male pedophile patient felt insulted and there have been giant cracks in hell ever since. 

It has nothing at all to do with YOUR right to

• Free speech
• Speak truth
• Boundaries
• Safety
• Employment rights
• Religious freedom
• Protection from bias and discrimination
• Protection from misogyny

The trick that people play with vulnerable populations is ‘if you just play by the rules, everything will be alright.”  Whose rules though? You mean rules that are in place to keep another harmful male human comfortable?

Meanwhile hardworking and skilled nurses like Jennifer Melle were punished for being human.

Quick Explainer

In high-stress environments like healthcare, teaching, or social services, professionals rely on automatic speech patterns to function efficiently. Their brain:

• Retrieves familiar phrases

• Uses practiced titles and pronouns

• Operates on instinct to reduce cognitive overload

When rules change suddenly, the mouth does not immediately match the memo. The old pathway is still dominant.

This isn’t discrimination.
It’s neurology.

When the brain is under pressure, it defaults to:

• What is known
• What is familiar
• What has worked before

The brain prioritizes safety and action—not new linguistic updates decided by …….who?

So this is back for her again.

Listen, people want women to comply.

Even when you are a professional, great at your job, nurturing (to others and yourself), seem kind, strong in your beliefs; if you do not comply then. as they see it, you must be broken down.

And I tell you this because there was a time when I wasn’t all of these things at once but I believed that once I was, then surely people would leave me alone and let me BE.  

In other words, I thought it was me. 

You should know many of us women who make it to a certain age learn, these things are not personal. You are a woman. That alone is powerful. But you are a woman and people carry a lot of beliefs about what that means and they may try to push that onto you. 

NHS to erupt in ‘all out war’ if nurse is sacked for ‘misgendering’ bearded paedophile

Why This Feels Especially Harsh for Women

In many professions dominated by women, particularly caregiving fields, women are already:

• Expected to communicate perfectly

• Punished for emotional nuance

• Judged more harshly for mistakes

• Held to standards men are not required to meet

• Unprotected

That “everything will be alright” is a lure. A trap. It is the worm on the hook. And people know it.

She Is Still Rising

May every step she takes now be lighter.
May every word she speaks be received with room and respect.
May she walk into tomorrow knowing this:

Her worth is older than language,
her calling cannot be revoked,
and her becoming is far from over.

She is still here.

And still here
is more than enough
to rise again.

Everyone believes something, just guard your mind and your heart. Boundaries.

Carl Sagan: “One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken.” (No need to get defensive, this truth has applied to me as much as anyone else. A lot of healing is unlearning. Sure is a humbling process. TGJP)

Photo by T Leish

“If we are not able to ask skeptical questions, to interrogate those who tell us that something is true — if we are unwilling to question authority — then we’re just putty in the hands of those in power.” Professor Carl Sagan

“Claims that cannot be tested, assertions immune to disproof, are veridically worthless, whatever value they may have in inspiring us or in exciting our sense of wonder.” Professor Carl Sagan