Consent Never Came, But the Agreement Was Made
from WESurviveAbuse.com
No one asked her.No one asked the girl with trembling hands and a racing heart.No one asked the woman staring into nothing, c [...]
🌿Healing Without Being Pulled Into Someone Else’s Agenda
Survivors are not projects to be shaped.They are people who deserve safety, clarity, and freedom.
Many Survivors have lived through:
coerciv [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
The Unseen Cage: What Coercive Control Really Looks Like
Because not all abuse leaves bruises—but it can still steal your freedom.
Some cages are invisible.No bars.No bruises.Just a tighteni [...]
Why Blaming Porn Alone Won’t End Violence Against Women
When we treat symptoms as causes, harm finds new ways to grow.
When we face the root, we begin to change what is possible.
When We Make Po [...]
Friendly Fire: Why Are Women Funding Their Own Erasure?
Tell me who I have to be to gain some reciprocity.... Ms. Lauryn Hill
As kids, we used to complain about the guy who pulled our [...]
Forced Sterilization Never Ended — It Just Learned How to Hide (women’s present day stories through videos)
The thing about 'female exams' is that we have to make our bodies available to doctors, but we have no idea what they may be doing to our bodies.
&n [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
They Are Still Calling Us “Hysterical” and “Stupid” Online on the Sly
Is the conversation still about the concern, or has it become about the person who raised it?
There are a lot of accounts online that [...]
The Hidden Law: Child Marriage is Still Legal in 37 U.S. States
Child marriage is often mistakenly viewed as an issue exclusive to the Global South, but it persists significantly across the West, including the Unit [...]
How Women Can Support Gay Men In Their Lives in Abusive Relationships
Abuse doesn’t care about gender or sexuality. It happens in all kinds of relationships—straight, gay, lesbian, and everything in between. But when it [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressing concerns about our safet [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
🛑 What the 2023 Supreme Court Stalking Case Means for Women — And Why We Must Act Now
There’s a lot going on in the world right now. The headlines are heavy, the pace is relentless, and it’s easy to feel pulled in a thousand directions. [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/loves There’s a saying that floats around on [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty. It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
Abuse Isn’t About Rage. It’s About Control.
👁️ See It Clearly Watch who people protect — and who they hurt.
Watch who they challenge — and who they stay silent around. Women.
Children.
[...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago.
I don't think I will ever forget she and her d [...]
✊🏾 Women Deserve Safety Without Apology
It is not hateful to name a reality:The same laws that allow trans-identified males to enter women’s spaces also open the door for any man—including [...]
When Love Feels Like Walking on Eggshells: FAQs About Coercive Control
FAQs About Coercive Control
Is coercive control the same as emotional abuse?
They overlap, but coercive control is often broader. It [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
The Missing Skill in Violence Prevention: Contextual Intelligence
When leaders simplify complex human lives to make policy easier, the most vulnerable often pay the highest price.
Imagine a committee discussing lo [...]
Unmuting the Voices: Empowering Women and Girls to Break the Silencing Chains
You may have noticed that it is young women and girls who often shame and silence other women and girls who speak out about their experiences with vio [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-down worldvi [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other wa [...]
Reshona Landfair: Jane Doe in R. Kelly’s sex tape reclaims name and shares her story
Adults. Adults can either create safety or harm. We play a hand in upholding abusers and harmers of children. A larger part than we want to admit. [...]
Megan Thee Stallion 101: You Don’t Break Me in Public and Expect Me to Heal in Silence
Why are people angry? I will tell you. This happens to nearly every victim who chooses themselves and the truth. After a season of ambivalence and [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
12 Things Men Say “I’m Not Worried About” — While Treating Women’s Concerns as Silly
Men love to say it with a shrug, a smirk, sometimes even a laugh: “I’m not worried about that.”
The arrogance in that statement is thick enough to [...]