Red Flags: Why Am I Feeling Unseen Here? Clues Survivors Notice First.
To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking about spaces, and conversations around viole [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”!
As an advocate, I’ve aided thousands of women in creating safety plans to stay alive from people close to them — friends, family, spouses!
Believing [...]
🧨 Selective Empathy: Who Gets Compassion—and Who Gets Condemned
⚖️ "But His Parents Divorced..."
As an advocate for victims of violence, abuse, and rape; I’ve sat in enough courtrooms to know this:When a white def [...]
Unlocking Hope: Ultimate Funding Resources for Domestic Violence Support and Survivor Empowerment
We need action now!
Over the decades, one of the most repeated phrases I have ever heard from Survivors of abuse is: "I want to h [...]
Pregnancy, Panic, and the Past: Supporting Survivors Through the Miracle of Birth
*Updated for 2025
When a close relative—let’s call her Morgan—announced her pregnancy, our entire family was ecstatic.
I wanted to hear ever [...]
Boundaries Aren’t Just Personal—They’re Political
Boundaries are powerful. They protect us, define us, and give us the space to grow. But what happens when others try to control our boundaries that [...]
🕊️ The Sisterhood Gag Order
When protecting him means punishing her.
Some women aren’t silenced by men.They’re silenced by other women.
Not with fists.But with sideways glances [...]
✊🏾 Teaching Before the Harm: The Difference Between Comfort and Safety
“We learn too late because no one taught us soon enough.
Let this be the generation that teaches before the harm.”
Comfort feels nice.
Safety keeps [...]
🧨 The Dangerous Oversight in Some “Alternative Justice” Conversations
In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind:
👉🏾 Victims have a right to safety.
Not imagined [...]
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Erin Justice: The Worst That Could Happen
Women and girls do not always survive rape.
Erin Justice was a teen being jointly raised by both of her parents. Erin notified police [...]
The Hidden Truth: Media Silence on Male Violence Against Women and Girls
image credit: weaveinc.org (💜) She is not a sex worker, she’s a victim of sex trafficking. The two are not interchangeable or synonymous. [...]
Every Woman Deserves to Be Heard in the Delivery Room
Please pay close attention to this woman's story and her words. ‘The day I was reduced to a Black birthing body.’ A doctor reflects on pr [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressing concerns about our safet [...]
‘ER’ Star Anthony Edwards Says Hollywood Big Shot Molested Him As A Teen
As an advocate, I have worked with male Survivors as colleagues, as a volunteer in organizations, and as the person that they confided in about being [...]
Stop the Ahistorical Comparison: Jim Crow Was Violent, Girls’ Sports Does Not Have To Be
This is so cruel.
There’s a new talking point going around:That not allowing boys to compete against girls in sports is somehow the same as Jim Crow [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
“Demand Transparency When Women’s and Children’s Safety Is at Stake”
Too many are hiding behind titles and faceless entities — the council, the board, the institute, the trust — when they make decisions that do not prot [...]
The Distortion of Gender: How a Controversial Psychologist Reframed the Conversation
Only some people use their knowledge and intelligence for the betterment of humanity.
Some people use their knowledge and intelligence to destroy it [...]
30 Signs of a Dangerous Person: How to Protect Yourself from Manipulators & Predators
Unsafe people don’t always reveal their true nature immediately. They test boundaries, manipulate emotions, and gain trust before showing their worst [...]
Best Books on Surviving Violence and Abuse, So Far: Black History Month Edition
What books have you read that you would have included in this edition? [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
The Forbidden Truth About Intimate Partner Violence & Abuse Revealed by Wyatt O'Brian Evans
I'd like to introduce to some of you a Survivor who makes me smile instantly. He is passionate, informed, and somehow finds a way to do this ofte [...]
Shaming Survivors Is How You Build an Abuser’s Paradise
You want to know how abusers thrive in families, churches, and communities?It’s not just what he does.It’s what you do for him.
Every time you shame [...]
Speaking Truth for Girls in a World that Prefers Silence (audio)
Welcome to We Survive Abuse—a powerful, unapologetic space where Survivors’ voices take center stage. Hosted by Tonya GJ Prince, a veteran advocate wi [...]
Caution and Prevention is a Necessity for Women
Women (and really, all people who want to stay safe) have always had to use discernment when encountering others. Questioning motives is not about bei [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
A Checklist for Anyone Claiming to Care About Women and Children’s Safety
No matter how you identify, if you continuously show up only to argue that women shouldn’t fight for our own health, opportunity, and safety, then the [...]
Leaving Isn’t the End of Abuse: Why Teens Need Protection When They Break Free
Something many people don’t understand
The most dangerous time for a victim is often when they are trying to leave.
This is true for adult [...]
🖤 It Isn’t Discipline. It’s Domination Disguised as a Lesson.
(Inspired by “How Abusers Place Themselves Above Accountability” — WeSurviveAbuse.com)
Racism often hides inside the language of lessons.It calls con [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
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Centering Women and Girls, Again
They want us to stop centering women and girls. We will not comply.-TGJP elink.io | See Original [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/loves There’s a saying that floats around on [...]
30 Red Flags of Unsafe People: How to Spot Them Early
Some people are simply unsafe. Whether in personal relationships, workplaces, social settings, movements, politics, or online spaces, unsafe individ [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-down worldvi [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged Bird Sings
I’ve always been a voracious reader.
Since as far back as I can remember, my mother [...]
How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How could it not? There's love or at least caring there.
But apologies from abusers [...]
People With Opinions Like Lauren Boebert Are the Reason We Need to Pass the Crown Act
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🔊 The Right to Speak: What a Difference a Voice Makes
Updated for 2025 Silence
“You have the right to remain silent.”
I first heard that phrase in my 8th grade Civics class during the lesson on Miran [...]
The Kentler Project: When the German State Gave Children to Pedophiles
Yes, it is tragically true.
From the late 1960s through the 1990s, West Germany—specifically the government in West Berlin—knowingly placed vulnerabl [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to hide intent, to blur goals, to claim the [...]
🛑 Summer Safety Alert: Predators Count on Your Distractions—Don’t Let Them
Yes, it’s summer again.
And while many of us are focused on camps, cookouts, rest, and routine changes—some people are focused on y [...]
The Costliest Mistake We Make When Women Speak About Safety
Some people have the loudest mics.The branding that screams “progressive,” “feminist,” “for the people.” But when Black women raised concerns a [...]