When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join gro [...]
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Are You Sure That You Are Listening to Women and Girls? (audio & blog post)
In this world where misogyny and sexism runs rampant, even fellow women may need continued education on simply listening to the concerns of women and [...]
“Not This Person” Is Old Reputation Management — And We’ve Fought This Before
Domestic violence advocates have been here before.
For decades, advocates fought a very specific lie.Not loudly at first.But relentless [...]
Is Your Child Advocacy Child-Centered or Adult-Centered?
Child advocacy means supporting and promoting the rights and well-being of children. When advocating for children, it's essential to ensure [...]
The Myth of Racial Harmony (1980s–2000s): What We Were Told to Forget
🧨 The Dangerous Myth: “We Were All Getting Along”
From the 1980s through the early 2000s, a comforting myth took hold: “We were united.” [...]
💣 In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You They’re Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, one moment o [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
Not All Submission Looks Like Sunday School
Some women believe they've separated themselves from patriarchy because they don’t tell women to “submit to your husband.”
But submission doesn’t alw [...]
Imagine How Women Escaping Domestic Violence Feel
Mom, 34, Allegedly Killed by the Father of Her Children During a Custody Swap After the Kids' Christmas Visit
When my home state got a new govern [...]
How Women’s Pain Is Minimized to Keep Men Comfortable
If there were no men in the room,no men in the equation,no men to protect or appease—
would anyone ever look a girl in the eye and say: “It’s no [...]
🖤 It Isn’t Discipline. It’s Domination Disguised as a Lesson.
(Inspired by “How Abusers Place Themselves Above Accountability” — WeSurviveAbuse.com)
Racism often hides inside the language of lessons.It calls con [...]
Why “I Don’t Care About Potential Harm-Doers” Sounds Empowering But Isn’t
We get it.You’re tired of tiptoeing.You’re tired of warning signs, red flags, and feeling like you have to carry the burden of watching your back all [...]
From Koketia King to Lisa Marie Riley: The Danger Didn’t End. It Just Changed Addresses.
In 2010, Florida boxer Yathomas Riley was arrested after his then-girlfriend, Koketia King, was shot in the head inside his Miami apartment.Riley clai [...]
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
We don’t survive by blending in.We survive by knowing who we are,what harmed us,and what helps us heal.
Oppressive [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
He raped her with his maleness, and now that he is in court (that in itself is a miracle because very few rapists are ever prosecuted), no one can ack [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025 Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Greenleaf on OWN. If you’ve ever watched it, you know [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
When Movements Mimic Religious Shunning: Why Silencing Dissent Won’t Build a Just World
Some of today’s loudest movements say they’re about justice, liberation, and community.
But too often, when someone disagrees—or simply asks a ques [...]
Why Are Women Still Expected to Risk Our Safety Just to Exercise?
Like so many Survivors of childhood sexual violence — and other forms of abuse — I live with chronic pain. Some days, it’s excruciating. But nearly [...]
“They’ll Be Raped Anyway” Is Not a Strategy—It’s Cowardly a Surrender
Some people are not "foxhole" people. They surrender mid-battle.
You say,“Well, women will be raped anyway…”as if that justifies handing predators [...]
The Harrowing Murder of Olivia Jones | Killers Caught On Camera
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRKZ9tddZrk&t=87s The surveillance cameras that he posted in the home helped to convict him of her murder. They [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
This Isn’t “Just Drama.” This Is Coercive Sex Trafficking
There is a deep and dangerous misunderstanding about the case involving Sean Combs and what it means to traffic someone through coercion. So let’s m [...]
Unlock Your Inner Power: Recognize Gaslighting Insults and Empower Yourself
Originally posted March 27, 2024
Affirmation:
I am the catalyst for change,
the voice that speaks truth to power.
Gaslightin [...]
24 Facts About Genocide: How Women Across Generations and Nations Have Been Targeted in Genocide
When a group has been treated as property, their boundaries are never automatically recognized
—they have to be asserted, defended, and reasserted ac [...]
This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind hands.They ask: Why didn’t she just go to the police?
But we know better.
We’ve [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
When Black Women Are Targeted for Questioning What Others Pretend Not to See
There was another time I learned just how selective feminism and women's work can be. After 30 plus years of service, there are too many.
That time [...]
Why Do People Call Gender-Critical Women “Extremists” When We’re Just Talking About Safety?
Survivor advocacy has always required naming what endangers women and children — even when it’s unpopular. This isn’t the kind of work that earns a [...]
Stop Calling It Respect When It’s Really Silence
When children are trapped in abusive homes, they’re not just harmed by the acts themselves. They’re trained through language. Words become cages. The [...]
When They Say You’re ‘Not So Innocent’—You Still Deserve Justice
How to Stay Safe When You're Judged Instead of Believed In the quiet corners of our communities, there are Survivors who never got justice—not beca [...]
We Don’t Police Each Other—We Challenge Power
Power.That’s the word they fear most when it rises in a Black woman’s mouth.
Our liberation will never be foundin tearing down each other’s choices.N [...]
The Parable of Silencing, Denial, and the Truth That Returned
🕯 The Parable of the Crooked Weaver
Once, in a small village wrapped in forest and silence, there lived a skilled weaver named Marron. He was known f [...]
New Survey: 1 in 10 Men Have Carried Out Sex Offenses Against Children
Here we go again......another truth that has been ignored because it came from the mouths of women and children. New research suggests 1 in 10 [...]
30 Red Flags of Unsafe People: How to Spot Them Early
Some people are simply unsafe. Whether in personal relationships, workplaces, social settings, movements, politics, or online spaces, unsafe individ [...]
When “Anti-Carceral” Becomes a Back Door for Abuse
Survivors of violence, harm, and abuse know full well what "no justice, no peace" means. We live it. -Tonya GJ Prince
Justice for Survivors Is Not O [...]
Survivors Who Speak Up Become Light for the Rest of Us
Young people say: I don't believe women and girls should have to be stronger. We ought to be fighting for a world that gives us all less to survive. I [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African Proverb Fear as a Tool of Control
Throughout history, fe [...]
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Erin Justice: The Worst That Could Happen
Women and girls do not always survive rape.
Erin Justice was a teen being jointly raised by both of her parents. Erin notified police [...]