A Brief Timeline: Marital Rape Laws in the West
A tremendous amount of work went into giving spouses legal recourse if they are assaulted by their spouse. Prior to this work, you couldn't even bring [...]
Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. Well, one thing that powerful people do is maintain strict boundaries. The average [...]
🔥 “Why Does My Safety Offend You?” — When Women Ask for Boundaries and Other Women Dare to Try to Shut Us Down
“Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make th [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Protecting MY Empathy, Protecting Me
People tend to treat Black women like our empathy is a faucet that you can turn on and off at will. When it doesn't work they actually complain like [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
How People Prompt or Lure Women to Prove Their Worth
"Why doesn't she leave? Why did she go back?"
We don't spend a lot of time examining what makes women doubt themselves. I look forward to the days [...]
Why Some Voices Are Punished for Asking the Right Questions-Even By Fellow Women
Updated from June 3, 2025
Speaking of a harmed woman's word is never good enough........ We WILL NOT be forgetting this.
We human beings are a fl [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
There is a dangerous misconception that rape is simply about lust or uncontrolled sexual attraction. This is false. Rape is about power and control. I [...]
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements Survivors Should Recognize and Trust Their Gut About
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements
“I’m going to get help—just give me a little more time.”Used to delay accountability and stop the Survivor [...]
It Doesn’t Take Long: When Obsession Turns Deadly After Just a Few Dates
By Tonya GJ Prince | WeSurviveAbuse.com Some people believe that stalking only happens after long, intense relationships.
They think, "Oh, she mus [...]
🧭 QUESTIONS TO DETECT REARTICULATION IN ACTION
1. Who is this “solution” really for?
Does it center women and girls, or just placate the powerful?
Who is being protected, and who is [...]
Reckoning Is Not Chaos. It Is Correction.(w/Affirmations)
We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now.
We arrived here [...]
Jenifer Lewis Says Pastor Took Her Career After Molestation| UnCensored
"Tell until someone listens"- Jenifer Lewis
She Didn’t Whisper. She Roared.
There is a particular kind of silence that lives in the shadows of pews [...]
Beliefs vs. Facts: A Roadblock to Women’s Rights
Belief vs. Fact — What’s the Difference?
1. What is a Belief?
Definition: A personal conviction, opinion, or interpretation that someone accep [...]
💔 They’ve Been Ignoring Our Pain for Generations. But We Still Feel It.
On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and ge [...]
Women WILL Make a Scene When We Do Not Feel Calm When a Male Enters a Female Space
From the time we are little girls, the world trains us to keep the peace.To stay quiet.To stay pleasant.To never upset anyone — especially men.
We ar [...]
Why Do Some Men Bash Good Men Rather Than Learning From Them?
Facts…why men rush to social media to bash Klay Thompson and Russell Wilson. pic.twitter.com/7O3U0642rm
— Fck_Yaya🎧✍️🏾 (@FckYaya) November 20, 20 [...]
🛑 What the 2023 Supreme Court Stalking Case Means for Women — And Why We Must Act Now
There’s a lot going on in the world right now. The headlines are heavy, the pace is relentless, and it’s easy to feel pulled in a thousand directions. [...]
Why Did Our Grandmothers Have So Many Children — and Why It Wasn’t About Sex or Desire
Alright — let’s tell the truth with love and with fire.
When people today look back at photos of our grandmothers and great-grandmothers — surround [...]
Unmuting the Voices: Empowering Women and Girls to Break the Silencing Chains
You may have noticed that it is young women and girls who often shame and silence other women and girls who speak out about their experiences with vio [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How could it not? There's love or at least caring there.
But apologies from abusers [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ Prince Every single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
Male Deception Gets a Pass
And Women Who Tell the Truth Pay the Price.
Let’s tell the truth that too many are afraid to name:
Male deception gets a pass.Male abuse is ration [...]
✨ Boundaries Don’t Meaningfully Harm Relationships — Disrespect Does
🚫 The Myth
“If you set boundaries, you’re being cold.”
“If you draw lines, you’re pushing people away.”
“If you say no, you’ll lo [...]
✋🏽Men Wanting to Define Womanhood Isn’t New
Throughout history, men who seek to control, abuse, or dominate women have always wanted one thing first:
To define womanhood for us.
They want to d [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesn’t always look like disbelief.It doesn’t always look [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
When Women’s Values Are Tested: The Fight to Protect What’s Sacred
People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives. [...]
No Predator Has the Authority to Rename Violence As a “Right.”
Abusers call what they do to women and children by many names. They dress it up with lies, excuses, and false respectability. They label it “l [...]