Everyone wants to talk about healing like it’s a tidy process.A quick fix.A checklist.A makeover. But here’s the truth Survivors know too well:
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Everyone wants to talk about healing like it’s a tidy process.
A quick fix.
A checklist.
A makeover.
But here’s the truth Survivors know too well:
Healing hurts.
And it doesn’t just hurt a little—it can hurt more than what you’re healing from.
And it can hurt for far longer than anyone tells you.
🩸 The Truth About the Healing Process:
Healing reopens the places you learned to numb.
Healing makes you remember what you tried to forget.
Healing breaks false peace you were forced to accept just to survive.
Healing calls out the lies you had to live with to keep functioning.
And that’s no small thing.
⏳ While You’re Still in Pain, People Start Timing You
They want to know:
“Aren’t you over that yet?”
“You’re still talking about that?”
“I thought you were healing?”
But what they don’t understand is—healing is not performance art.
It’s not about saying the right things, doing the “right” amount of yoga, or smiling through the trauma.
Healing is grief.
It is messy.
It is private.
It is unpredictable.
And sometimes, it brings more pain than the original wound ever did—because now you can feel what you once had to numb.
🎯 People Expect Accuracy. You’re Just Trying to Breathe.
In a world that glorifies “bounce back” and overnight transformation,
Survivors are expected to execute healing with precision—
Say the right words.
Forgive at the right time.
Move on without disrupting anyone else’s comfort.
But real healing doesn’t work that way.
Some days, you rise like fire.
Some days, you crumble like ash.
And both are sacred.
Both are healing.
🕯️ If You’re Still in the Ache of It…
You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re doing the hardest, truest, most soul-stretching work of your life.
And the fact that it hurts?
That doesn’t mean you’re broken.
It means you’re brave.
🌿 Affirmations for the Long, Painful, Real Healing
🟣 I’m allowed to hurt for as long as I need.
🟣 I am not behind—I am healing in my time, on my terms.
🟣 My pain doesn’t need to be palatable to be real.
🟣 Healing is not linear. I am not a timeline.
🟣 Some days hurt more—but that doesn’t mean I’m not growing.
🟣 I will not rush what my soul needs to move through with care.
🟣 My healing is sacred—even when it hurts.
Share if you feel safe and ready—your voice might be the lifeline someone else needs.
And if you do share, remember to cite the messenger. Words carry legacy.
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