Category: Self care
⚖️ How Alternative Justice Can Mimic Harmful Forgiveness Pressure
We live in a world where speaking out against violence—especially vi [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you lis [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to po [...]
Detachment Is Not Coldness—It’s Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To “love him through it.”To pou [...]
Being Protective Is Good: Why You Don’t Have to Choose Between Kindness and Boundaries
In today’s world—especially in progressive spaces—many women are made [...]
You Can Support Human Rights and Ask for Safety
You are allowed to care about people—and care about your own protectio [...]
You Can Love People and Still Set Firm, Protective Boundaries
They’ll tell you that love means saying "yes".That love means flexibil [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety.
But [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or [...]
Power Doesn’t Always Mean Protection—And That’s the Problem
I’ve worked with women in power.Judges. Prosecutors. City council me [...]
The Media Is Teaching Women to Be Silent About Violence. Even Women in Media.
We need to name it.
The media—mainstream and social—isn't just failin [...]
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
We don’t survive by blending in.We s [...]
🧩 Oppressive Systems Are Built to Erase Specificity
We must say it plainly: Oppressive systems are designed to flatten, ge [...]
Some “Justice Movements” Are Enabling Harm Against Women and Children. We Need to Talk About It.
Not every movement that says it stands for “justice” is safe for wom [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Beli [...]
When Your Strength Makes Them Angry
Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong j [...]
🧩 The Price of Silence: Black Women, Coercive Control, and the Hidden Costs of “Unity”
There is a kind of violence that doesn’t leave bruises.A kind that hid [...]
🚨 Listen Closely. Believe Them.
Too many people overlook this. We want to believe that people are be [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brillian [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it t [...]
