There have always been obstacles—but there have also always been real ones by our side, standing strong with us to rise above them. It’s been aroun
There have always been obstacles—but there have also always been real ones by our side, standing strong with us to rise above them.
It’s been around forever—
In movements.
In families.
In workplaces.
Even online.
What is it?
It’s like hijacking—but with emotional harm.
Someone witnesses your mistreatment, then uses your pain to promote themselves.
🎭 What Harm-Jacking Sounds Like:
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“See how they treated you? That’s why you need me.”
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“They did you dirty—I wouldn’t.”
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“They’re just jealous of your light. Let’s make them regret it.”
Sounds like care.
Smells like protection.
But tastes like manipulation.
💔 When You’re a Black Woman? It Gets Even More Twisted.
We’re not harmed in spite of our beauty, power, and presence—
We’re harmed because of it.
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Our hair.
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Our curves.
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Our cadence.
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Our spiritual depth.
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Our don’t-need-to-prove-it strength.
Some people can’t handle that.
So they wait for us to be wounded—
Then rush in to capitalize on our pain.
Not to help.
But to gain access to our light.
To ride our story without living our truth.
🚩 Signs You’re Being Harm-Jacked:
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Someone uses your pain as a platform
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They begin speaking for you
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You feel indebted after they “defend” you
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They never address the harm—just your reaction to it
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They build clout using your experience
🚫 This Is Not Solidarity
Real support doesn’t perform.
It listens. It centers you.
Real support asks:
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“What do you need?”
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“Can I walk with you—or hold space while you rise?”
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“How do I honor your story without stealing it?”
🔥 You Deserve Better
To the radiant, soft, bold, divine Black women:
You are not just a witness to harm.
You are the story.
And you are the author.
No one gets to:
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Turn your pain into a PR campaign
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Use your wounds to gain power
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Become your spokesperson without consent
✊🏾 For the Community: Do Better
✅ Ask before you speak for someone
✅ Don’t make someone’s trauma about you
✅ Address harm—don’t leverage it
✅ Celebrate people for who they are, not for who hurt them
✅ Let Survivors be more than their wounds
🕯 Final Word
We’ve been:
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Used.
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Misread.
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Underestimated.
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Exploited.
But now—we name it.
We clear space for true healing.
Our truth is sacred.
Our light is not up for grabs.
And our story? It’s ours. Always.
✨ Affirmations for When Others Try to Hijack Your Pain
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My pain is not a prop. My truth is not a tool. My story belongs to me.
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I do not choose to be loyal to anyone who profits from my wounds.
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I am not here to be someone else’s evidence. I am here to live, to rise, and to heal in peace.
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My beauty, my strength, and my struggle are not marketing points. They are sacred.
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I release anyone who only stood beside me to be seen. I deserve real presence, not performance.
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The next time someone tries to use my harm to elevate themselves, may my silence be a boundary and my absence be a lesson.
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I am reclaiming my story with power, clarity, and deep self-respect. No one gets to steal that.
