Some folks are upset now
about the phrase:
“I don’t owe you.”

Around here, we are retiring the phrase.

But not because people do not like it, 

but because we have so much more to say and

“I don’t owe you” doesn’t cover it all.

But let’s be real—
that phrase didn’t break the world.
What broke us was being expected to give everything
and still be blamed when the cup was empty.

🌿 Central Healing Truth:

The real threat is not the boundary.
It’s the belief that some people don’t deserve to have one.

💬 Let’s Speak Truth

• The phrase isn’t the wound—
  the lack of accountability is.

• Women are still asked to explain
  why we need safety,
  while men walk through life
  never having to explain why they harmed.

• We’re still calling it “single motherhood”
  instead of calling out father neglect.

• Children say,
  “I don’t feel safe,”
  and adults wave it off
  like it’s a tantrum, not a testimony.

• Survivors come forward,
  and still—they become the ones on trial.

• Millions of women live in fear,
  while the people who harmed them
  live with freedom, followers, and fanfare.

And now we’re debating phrases?

No.

Let’s debate the systems that created the need for them.

🧘🏾‍♀️ Survivor Affirmations

My voice is not too much.
My boundaries are not the problem.
I speak truth even when they don’t want to hear it.
I trust what my body remembers.
I release shame that was never mine.
I do not exist to make harm easier to ignore.
I protect myself like I’m worthy—because I am.

🔥 A Closing Word for the Ones Who Know

We’re not fighting about a phrase.
We’re fighting to be treated like human beings.

Some of us are tired of systems that reward silence
and punish truth.
Some of us are tired of making our pain palatable
just to be allowed in the room.

If it makes you uncomfortable that a Survivor says,
“I don’t owe you,”
maybe it’s because you’ve gotten too comfortable
with being owed what you never earned.

Some of us are not going back.
Some of us are not softening sacred truths.
Some of us are not editing the fire out of our boundaries.

We are the daughters of the women
who refused to disappear.
We are the Survivors who rebuilt ourselves
when no one came to help.

Let the world debate phrases.
We’ll be out here healing, remembering, and rising.

Stuck between unpaid childcare and eldercare duties, women might not be able to afford their own retirement