Not every woman who looks like sheâs with you is for you. Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truthâbut deep down, they are w
Not every woman who looks like sheâs with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truthâbut deep down, they are wearing a mask. One shaped by fear. By image. By allegiance to men who harm.
They nod in agreement while privately defending the very people youâre trying to heal from.
They post the quotes, the reels, the hashtags. But when it comes time to do the work of truth, safety, and accountabilityâthey freeze. Or worse, they flip.
đ© You May Be Dealing with a Mirror-Masker IfâŠ
She shares your traumaâbut silences your truth. She wants to connect over pain, but not take action or speak honestly about who caused it.
She avoids naming harm, especially when itâs male-led. Sheâll say âsomething happenedâ instead of âhe assaulted her.â
She encourages secrecy over safety. She tells you, âJust move onâ or âTake the high road,â even when someone is actively hurting others.
Sheâs loyal to the man before the mission. Even if the man has harmed her, or you, or other women.
She believes that exposing harm will âset us back.â As if truth is what delays progress, not abuse.
She performs healing instead of practicing it. She lights candles but avoids hard conversations. She preaches boundaries but wonât hold any.
She confuses suppression with strength. And tells you that âreal queens donât speak on itââwhen in truth, real queens protect their people. And most importantly, a real queen tells the truth especially around violence and abuse.
đ Why Does She Do This?
Because somewhere along the way, she learned:
That silence is safety.
That protecting a manâeven a harmful oneâwins her favor, not isolation.
That community means compliance, not accountability.
That if she ever speaks too much truth, she might be the next one cast out.
She may not mean to betray you. But she does.
đ§ What You Deserve Instead:
Friends who challenge systems, not just wear matching t-shirts.
Circles that understand healing is messyâbut truth is non-negotiable.
Sisterhood rooted in integrity, not image.
Women who donât just reflect your lightâbut help protect it.
đș Remember This:
đș Remember This:If her mirror doesnât reflect your full truth,
If her loyalty is only as deep as your silence,
If her mask protects men more than womenâŠ
That is not sisterhood.
That is performance.
And you are allowed to leave the stage.
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