"If it tries to diminish me, my health, my safety, my ascendance, or my rights, it is unacceptable, to me." Tonya
Unhindered female choice in relationships is still a relatively new concept—even in the United States.
It wasn’t that long ago that American women lacked access to:
✅ Credit in their own names
✅ Property ownership without male oversight
✅ Equal access to certain jobs
✅ The ability to date and marry who they wanted for their own reasons
Even after laws changed, the chains remained—on minds, on systems, and on culture.
A person born in the 1990s may have grown up with these rights, but they were still raised in homes, families, schools, and faith communities where female autonomy wasn’t fully embraced. Because history teaches us a hard truth: legal freedom does not automatically mean social acceptance.
We saw it in American slavery. We see it worldwide. Just because a law grants a group the rights they should have always had doesn’t mean people will suddenly respect those rights. Changing policies is one thing—changing mindsets, behaviors, and systems is another battle entirely.
The World Still Struggles to Respect Female Autonomy
Even in so-called progressive societies, women’s choices—especially in relationships—are constantly scrutinized, questioned, and challenged.
🔴 Some still debate whether women should have ever been granted these rights in the first place.
🔴 Some still believe women don’t truly know what’s good for them.
🔴 Some resent, ridicule, or even react violently to the idea of women making relationship, financial, or personal decisions without male supervision.
🔴 Some still get upset when women set boundaries, make choices that serve their needs, or simply say no.
And here’s the thing—a lot of people are still bitter about it. Still mad. Still pouting.
It gets exhausting. It gets weird. It gets on your nerves.
So, while the world sorts itself out, protect your peace. Engage in self-care. And above all: stay loyal to yourself and your future.
They’ll catch up—or they won’t. Either way, your life moves forward.
You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to You
Let’s be real: There are over 7.7 billion people on this planet.
All of them exist. But you are not obligated to date or entertain every single one of them. You are not responsible for making other people feel comfortable with your standards.
💡 You are allowed to be selective.
💡 You are allowed to scrutinize, judge, and clarify your wants and needs.
💡 You are allowed to have preferences—just like men do.
The truth is, all dating and marriage decisions are about preferences—everyone has them. Even the most “open-minded” person still has characteristics, values, or lifestyles they prefer.
Women are no exception. You do not owe anyone charity when it comes to your personal choices.
Be loyal to yourself.
The people who disagree will be just fine—just like they are when men date and marry as they please.
Final Thought
There will always be people who challenge your choices. Let them. Just protect your peace.
Your life, your love, your happiness—they are yours to define.
*P.S. There will always be people who disagree with your choices.
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