A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the bu
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the burden onto the wrong people.
Growing up in a world that conditions girls to be human shields for broken, violent, neglectful, or emotionally unavailable males comes at a high cost. A life-long cost. A life-threatening cost.
Some of us were raised to carry burdens that were never ours to carry.
Taught to absorb rage.
To tolerate chaos.
To silence our instincts in order to soothe someone else’s ego.
We were taught to “keep the peace,” but nobody protected our peace.
And so we grew.
But not without pain.
When you are taught that your role is to protect men from their consequences,
you start making decisions that do not serve you.
You may even make choices that put you in danger.
You learn to mistake suffering for love.
You allow yourself to attract the lint of society—people who cling, use, drain, and discard.
You forget your own sacredness.
You devalue your worth.
You play yourself small.
You fail to recognize what a miracle it is to be a female human being.
Whether you give birth or not.
Whether you are partnered or not.
Whether you are seen or not.
You are already worthy.
You were never created to be some adult’s emotional punching bag, trauma dump, henchman, shield, or backup plan.
You were not born to make others feel more whole by slicing yourself into pieces.
That is not love.
That is not safety.
That is not your job.
✨ Liberate yourself.
Today.
Tomorrow.
Every day.
Let the spell be broken.
Let the shame return to the ones who placed it on you.
Let your heart expand into its full size again.
Your softness is not a weakness.
Your survival is not a curse.
Your boundaries are not a betrayal.
Your life is not a sacrifice zone.
You are not here to absorb abuse.
You are here to thrive beyond it.
🔥 Affirmations to Break Free from Being a Human Shield
I no longer carry the weight of other people’s brokenness. I am allowed to put it down and walk away.
I was not born to absorb abuse—I was born to live, to love, and to be free.
My safety matters. My peace matters. My life matters.
I release the lie that love means self-abandonment. I choose love that protects and honors me.
Being female is not a flaw to be punished—it is a miracle to be honored.
I am not here to be the clean-up crew for other people’s emotional damage. I choose me.
I deserve relationships that do not demand my silence, suffering, or sacrifice.
I am not the cause of someone else’s harm. Their choices are not my responsibility.
I was taught to play small. I am learning to stand tall. I will not apologize for growing.
Every time I speak truth, honor my boundaries, or protect my peace—I reclaim a piece of my power.
🌀 Affirmation
I am no one’s shield. I am my own sanctuary. I was never meant to carry someone else’s brokenness as my destiny. I honor my life, my body, and my safety—fully and without apology.
Walk tall in your full strength!
