You Were Always Worth Loving—They Just Weren’t Capable of Giving It
There are people who will make you question everything good about yourselfbecause they were never capable of loving you well.
And yet—you tried.You [...]
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Resilient Spirit: 10 Reasons Black Women’s Stories of Overcoming Abuse and Violence Are Important
"The Color Purple" by Alice Walker is one of the earliest and most well-known books written by a black woman about domestic violence. While it ma [...]
✋🏽Men Wanting to Define Womanhood Isn’t New
Throughout history, men who seek to control, abuse, or dominate women have always wanted one thing first:
To define womanhood for us.
They want to d [...]
Weaponized Witnessing: When They Watch You Fall, But Never Help You Rise
There’s a kind of watching that doesn’t come from love.A kind of watching that waits for you to stumble—not to catch you,but to collect the footage. [...]
When Leaders Put Special Interests Above Public Safety
Leaders who put special interests above the well-being of the people are not truly leading.
They are making deals that auction off community safety f [...]
We Don’t Police Each Other—We Challenge Power
Power.That’s the word they fear most when it rises in a Black woman’s mouth.
Our liberation will never be foundin tearing down each other’s choices.N [...]
When Niceness Becomes a Trap: Why Women Deserve the Bottom Line, Not Confusion
Women are often encouraged to be kind, accommodating, flexible, and understanding — even when our safety is at stake. We are told to “be nice.” We are [...]
Weight Gain After Trauma Isn’t Just Emotional—It’s Biological
Let’s stop lying to Survivors.
Let’s stop telling people who have lived through violation, abandonment, abuse, and neglect to just “push the plate aw [...]
The Ancient Words of Womanhood: Feminine Power Before ‘Femininity’
Know this: Long before present day calls for women to embrace our power,
women have been embracing our birthright power!- Tonya GJ Prince
In toda [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peaceIt starts with a bad decision.Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
🚫 You Can Be in a Movement—and Still Be Submissive
Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get said enough:
Just because you’re in a space that calls itself progressiveor radical, or revol [...]
Being Protective Is Good: Why You Don’t Have to Choose Between Kindness and Boundaries
In today’s world—especially in progressive spaces—many women are made to feel that if they truly care about human rights, they must stay quiet about t [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Black History Month…. Lets Go!
Updated from January 28, 2024Black History Month is not a highlight reel. It is a living inheritance. A remembering of courage carried quietly, br [...]
Safe Space LIVE: Trevor Noah Honors Black Women
The older you get, the more you appreciate the wind beneath your wings. [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
When It’s No Longer Safe to Stay Attached
Move With a Flow That Honors You
(inspired by your closing words—soft, powerful, rooted in survival and self-worth)We don’t always know what [...]
People Don’t Fear Your Inner World. They Fear Being Controlled by It.
When I was in college earning my degree in Organizational Management and Development, we were asked to give a presentation about early milestones in o [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many times they weren’t.
They thought that time would blur the memories,tha [...]
How Abusers and Systems Use “You Have It Good” to Normalize Deprivation
Gratitude is something I practice as a core part of my healing.
But all good things can be misused.
This is not a call for gratitude.
This is contr [...]
We Need Politicians Who Center Women’s Real Lives
We need politicians who center women. Full stop.
Not just women who marry.Not just women who mother.Not just women who serve the goals of men.
We me [...]
Centering Safety: Honoring the Right to Request Female Carers
Some things should never be controversial.A disabled woman or girl requesting a female caregiver should not be met with outrage, mockery, or moral j [...]
💔 They Don’t Say She Was Loved — They Say She Stayed
Previous generations of women had different concerns because they had fewer options.
Let’s start there.Many of our grandmothers and great-gra [...]
Myth: “If Women Just Spoke Up Sooner, They Could Have Stopped the Abuse”
Reality: Abusers Cultivate Silence, and Society Punishes Women Who Speak
One of the most insidious myths about abuse is the idea that if [...]
You Don’t Need Their Explanation to Be Free
You waited for an apology that never came.You held your breath, hoping for an ounce of truth.You thought maybe if you asked the right questions,crie [...]
It Is Not Women Who Should Be Shamed for Protecting Themselves.
Society has done an awful, weak, and half-hearted job of protecting women and children. Too often, when a woman sets boundaries or takes steps to safe [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
Black History Month Means Honoring the Humanity of the Women Who Loved Us Here (Musical Playlist Included)
updated from 2/2/ 2025 Without Black women, the miracles of
Black history would not be possible.
So much of who I am, I ow [...]
You Don’t Have to Stay Where You’re Not Safe
Some of us are trying to bloom in gardens that were never planted for us.
We show up with our hands full—bandages, truth-telling, receipts, prayers, [...]
You Are Worthy Now and You Were Then: Featuring Brielle Fowler (audio/podcast)
In this empowering episode of Survivor Affirmations, we emphasize the power of uplifting unheard voices and celebrate resilience. Join us as w [...]