From Objectified to Empowered: Women’s Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
Henrietta Lacks’ story is a stark reminder of the injustices women, especially Black women, have faced in the medical field. Her [...]
You Don’t Need Their Explanation to Be Free
You waited for an apology that never came.You held your breath, hoping for an ounce of truth.You thought maybe if you asked the right questions,crie [...]
Healing Is Not Linear—It’s Rhythmic
I take what nourishes, I leave what drains. My spirit knows the difference like rivers know the rain.
Indigenous practitioners, rootworkers, somatic [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would never let that happen to you.”
But here’s [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”!
As an advocate, I’ve aided thousands of women in creating safety plans to stay alive from people close to them — friends, family, spouses!
Believing [...]
🧩 Oppressive Systems Are Built to Erase Specificity
We must say it plainly: Oppressive systems are designed to flatten, generalize, and erase.
They pretend to be “fair” by treating everyone the same—bu [...]
Why Declaring Women’s Right to Privacy and Safety Means Rejecting Male Entitlement
When we declare that women and girls have the right to privacy, dignity, and safety, we are also declaring something deeper:🚫 What It Means [...]
The Dangerous Myth: Why Unkind Men Are Not Protectors of Women
Hollywood movies and the biased media have taught us well. Too well.
One of the most dangerous myths we carry is the belief that men who are unkind, [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth)
You’ve left the relationship.You’ve named what happened.Maybe you’ve even started to heal.But some days… the [...]
What Happens When Women Fully Stop Performing Labor For the Male Gaze?
Words That Tried to Tame WomenFor generations, women have been shamed into labor — emotional, physical, spiritual — through language that sounds o [...]
What Are Pseudoseizures? Understanding Psychogenic Seizures in Trauma Survivors
Remember, trauma lives in the body........
Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES), are seizure-like episodes that look and feel like epileptic sei [...]
Unlock Your Inner Power: Recognize Gaslighting Insults and Empower Yourself
Originally posted March 27, 2024
Affirmation:
I am the catalyst for change,
the voice that speaks truth to power.
Gaslightin [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
We are not just Black.We are not just women.We are Black women—and we need care, health, and safety.
You don’t get to claim you care about justic [...]
For Women Autonomy Is Not Teflon Against Violence and Abuse
Autonomy is powerful.But it is not a shield.Not in this world.
A woman can know herself.She can have boundaries, voice, purpose, and strength.And sti [...]
Self-Determination Doesn’t Always Look Like You Think It Should
There’s a blind spot on the Left.
A loud, well-meaning, but dangerous assumption that all women want the same things, live by the same codes, and a [...]
Our Tongues Survived the Fire: The Story of Xhosa, Survival, and Respect
There are languages that carry the rhythm of a people’s soul.Languages that rise and fall like the breath of generations.
Xhosa is one of those langu [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/lovesThere’s a saying that floats around on [...]
When the Whole World Is Watching: It Takes a Super Human Commitment to Self-Care to Leave
updated from May 23 2025
Leaving an abusive relationship is never easy.But leaving while the entire world is watching?That’s a sacred act of radica [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join gro [...]
The More You Heal, the More You Offend Those Who Don’t Want To
Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash—not just from strangers, but from people you once trusted with your heart.
What [...]
🕊️ The Sisterhood Gag Order
When protecting him means punishing her.
Some women aren’t silenced by men.They’re silenced by other women.
Not with fists.But with sideways glances [...]
The Art of Reflective Thinking in 8 Steps (with infographic)
I saw a woman share her very personal relationship story in a video this week.There was a lot of discussion about whether she "should have known bette [...]
I’m Tired of Watching Women Pay the Price While Everyone Else Argues About Words
We cannot keep living in a world where every tool meant to protect women and girls gets dragged into a tug of war.On one end, new ideas are [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Cheer for ME!
Please take the time to be proud of yourself. Please cheer for yourself!If no one else cheers for you, cheer for yourself! 5 Ways to Feel Mo [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
Sensitive Isn’t Weak—It’s Sacred Work
Some people are praised for being “unbothered.”Some are celebrated for being “tough.”But in this work—in this life—I have found something far more pow [...]
🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that aren’t intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]
Creating Safe Spaces to Heal: How Black Women Make Room for Ourselves When the World Won’t
We weren’t handed safe spaces.We’ve had to build them from scratch—with whatever was in our hands,whatever was in our hearts,and sometimes, just w [...]
Why Women Must Use Our Labor Wisely: From Survival to True Progress
In my early 30's I realized that I had three female conditions brewing inside me. And they had been there for a long time. In spite of me getting [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African ProverbFear as a Tool of Control
Throughout history, fe [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Right to Safety and Dignity Regardless of Male Desires
We do not have to hold on to the potentially
dangerous idea that a
male's needs come first.
Above all others.
Above our own.
Above our c [...]