Affirmation: Silence the voice of self-criticism (with video & audio)
New video linkI silence the voice of self-criticism.I donât even hear self-criticism speak when it tries to get my attention. It doesnât have anything [...]
Anger Isnât Ruining Your Healing. Silence Did. (10 Quick Reclamation Tips)
For a long time, many of us were taught that anger was the danger. That if we were calm enough, soft enough, understanding enough, things would not [...]
You Werenât Difficult. You Were Just Finally Done Pretending It Didnât Hurt
They called you difficult.Unreasonable.Too sensitive.Hard to love.
But what they really meant was:You stopped making it easy for them to mistreat y [...]
The Costliest Mistake We Make When Women Speak About Safety
Some people have the loudest mics.The branding that screams âprogressive,â âfeminist,â âfor the people.â But when Black women raised concerns a [...]
You Can Support Human Rights and Ask for Safety
You are allowed to care about peopleâand care about your own protection.
You are allowed to believe in justiceâand believe that boundaries save liv [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the âDie Aloneâ Myth Is Used to Control Women
âFear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.â
â African Proverb Fear as a Tool of Control
Throughout history, fe [...]
Lessons from Survivor Jenifer Lewis on Overcoming Shame (videos)
As incredibly talented as she is, Jenifer Lewis is also a teacher! She is a teacher to all who struggle with mental illness, racism, sexism, and ab [...]
Our Rights Are Not Disposable
Women's rights are not up for elimination.Not now. Not ever.
Our rights are not conditional based on someone else's discomfort.They are not meant to [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
đŁ Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Letâs tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other.
Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics.
Itâs no accident t [...]
âš If You Werenât Powerful, They Wouldnât Be Obsessed with Dimming You
The world doesnât chase whatâs ordinary.It only tries to contain what shines.
When you find yourself picked apart, ridiculed, or shut out,remember â [...]
đ If Iâm Healing, Then Why Am I Hurting?
A gentle truth for the days when healing aches more than harm ever did.
We donât talk about this part enough.
The part where healing hurts.
[...]
For Women Autonomy Is Not Teflon Against Violence and Abuse
Autonomy is powerful.But it is not a shield.Not in this world.
A woman can know herself.She can have boundaries, voice, purpose, and strength.And sti [...]
When Thinness Was a Virtue: 1980s Body Ideals and the Cost to Womenâs Health
We woke upto pastel lycra and a bounce in the beatâWe started with aerobics at dawn,counted every calorie by noon,and aimed for a âbeach bodyâ by du [...]
Walking Away Isnât Weak. Itâs the Bravest Thing You Ever Did.
They told you walking away meant you gave up.That you werenât strong enough to âstick it out.âThat you didnât try hard enough, didnât pray hard enou [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
Thereâs a growing trend across online spaces where peopleâespecially younger adultsâdiscuss estrangement from parents as if itâs a simple math equatio [...]
Our Tongues Survived the Fire: The Story of Xhosa, Survival, and Respect
There are languages that carry the rhythm of a peopleâs soul.Languages that rise and fall like the breath of generations.
Xhosa is one of those langu [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry. People talk as if womenâs safety is something governments eventually âfigure out,â like a policy glitch that just needs an update. Hi [...]
Harm-Jacking: When Your Pain Becomes Someone Elseâs Weapon
There have always been obstaclesâbut there have also always been real ones by our side, standing strong with us to rise above with them.
Itâs been [...]
12 Things It Is Not Womenâs Job to Fix
updated from July 11, 2025 â Especially When Weâre Still Doing Most of the Work for Less Pay This piece honors the fact that women perform a [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
𧱠âYou Just Keep Complainingâ: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
âYou just keep complaining.ââYouâre always bringing that up.ââYou never let anything go.â
If you've ever heard these phrases [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our childrenâso they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
Despite Betrayal, You Are Not Alone
Dear Unbreakable Warriors, I pen these words to you, warriors of resilience, who have been betrayed by people who you hoped would be [...]
They Hope You Never Realize How Powerful You Already Are
đč They Hope You Donât See It
There is something they hope you never realize.Something that terrifies them.
Itâs not your weakness.Itâs your power.
[...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Honor My Journey and Reclaim My Energy
 Anytime you put your time, energy, and heart into something you take a risk. It may not turn out as you had hoped. That part always hurts. Still [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once: âThe first time he raised his voice again, I knew.â Her friend asked, âHow could you know? Maybe he was just upset.â
[...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Right to Safety and Dignity Regardless of Male Desires
If a man wakes up believing he is divinely entitled to every woman, that is between him and his treatment team.
I still have a right to privacy, saf [...]
Why Women Must Stop Handing Power to Our Oppressors
Some of us have been told since girlhood that our main purpose in this life was to support men.To smile when they win.To clap for their rise.To smooth [...]
Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black peopleâhow its systems treat Black peopleâhow it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
Ignite Change: Affirmations to Amplify Women’s Rights Worldwide
When people finally take off the mask they wear to hide misogyny they may say things to women like:
Ugly/Unworthy
"You look like a man."
"No man [...]
đ When Children Are Punished for Feeling, They Learn to Go Along with Harm
Thereâs something we donât talk about nearly enough:
When children are punished too oftenâespecially for having feelings or telling the truthâthey do [...]
Detachment Is Not ColdnessâItâs Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To âlove him through it.âTo pour water on a man who doesnât grow, doesnât change, doesnât offer safety, doesnât [...]
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How Abusers and Systems Use âYou Have It Goodâ to Normalize Deprivation
Gratitude is something I practice as a core part of my healing.
But all good things can be misused.
This is not a call for gratitude.
This is contr [...]
Calling Out the Undermining of Women and Children’s Rights
"We are living in times so strange that truth sounds like conspiracy, and kindness feels like rebellion."â Unknown Jonah Wheeler has been lec [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believeâmany of usâthat if people only knew the truth about someoneâŠ
âŠthat theyâre abusive.âŠthat theyâre a predator.âŠthat they hurt wome [...]
Unlocking Hope: Ultimate Funding Resources for Domestic Violence Support and Survivor Empowerment
We need action now!
Over the decades, one of the most repeated phrases I have ever heard from Survivors of abuse is: "I want to h [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were âright.âYou âsaw the signs.âYou âtold her he wasnât good.âYou âwouldâve left sooner.âYou âwould never let that happen to you.â
But hereâs [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
Thereâs something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesnât always look like disbelief.It doesnât always look [...]
Women & Children Should Never Be Pressured to Lower Their Boundaries for AnyoneâNo Exceptions
Women and children are often toldâexplicitly and implicitlyâthat their boundaries donât matter. That they should bend, break, or erase them altogeth [...]
Never Go Back: Break-Up Safety Tips for Abused Partners (Infographic)
Speaking of never going back..... Break up safety tips for abused partners by Tonya GJ Prince elink.io | See Original [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Am My Own Best Cheerleader
Updated for 2025
I stand with myself in all seasons.When no one else claps, I still rise. I speak life over myselfâdaily, intentionally, an [...]
Affirmed: Protect Your Power and Disengage From People Who Plant Self-Doubt
updated from January 20 2025 This week, I wish you success in distancing yourself from people who plant self-doubt in women and girls. Many f [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
We cannot fix what we refuse to face. And when it comes to the safety of women and girls, sidestepping truth in favor of comfort serves no one. There [...]
From Objectified to Empowered: Womenâs Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
 Henrietta Lacksâ story is a stark reminder of the injustices women, especially Black women, have faced in the medical field. Her [...]
Iâm Not Explaining Myself AnymoreâYou Were Just Never Listening
There comes a point in your healing when you get tired.Not just tired of the painâBut tired of the explaining.Tired of the justifying.Tired of repea [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isnât the Truth)
Youâve left the relationship.Youâve named what happened. Maybe youâve even started to heal.But some days⊠the [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
10 Signs Youâre Being Asked to Tolerate the Intolerable
adjusting.being understanding.keeping the peace.
repeat.
Your cheek muscles hurt from smiling so much to keep others "comfortable".
And then.....on [...]
𧩠The Price of Silence: Black Women, Coercive Control, and the Hidden Costs of “Unity”
There is a kind of violence that doesnât leave bruises.A kind that hides behind charm, culture, tradition, âcommunity.âA kind that preys on the idea t [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Protecting MY Empathy, Protecting Me
People tend to treat Black women like our empathy is a faucet that you can turn on and off at will. When it doesn't work they actually complain like [...]
đŹïž Benediction for the Journey: On Letting Go
Letting go is not weakness.Letting go is not failure.Letting go is not giving up.
Letting go is sacred.Letting go is survival.Letting go is Womanist [...]
10 Dangerous Beliefs That Have Harmed Women Around the World
Some lies donât look like lies.They wear the clothing of âtradition,â âculture,â âlove,â or âfemininity.âBut if you look closer, youâll see the brui [...]
When Pretending You’re Okay Is Wearing You Down
What to Do Instead of Faking It All the Time
Some days, pretending to be okay feels safer than telling the truth.
You already know what happens when [...]
Affirmation: I Am My Own Unique Self-Special, Creative, and Wonderful
updated for 2025
âš Affirmation: I Am My Own Unique Self
I am my own unique selfâspecial, creative, and wonderful.No one in the entire universe i [...]
Eveâs Legacy Is More Than MusicâItâs a Blueprint for Reinvention
Eve is more than a mic and a momentâsheâs a one woman movement.From Philly cyphers to global stages, from "Love Is Blind" to Emmy-winning co-h [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be MutualâBut Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldnât know that if you listened to todayâs men speak.
Somehow, women are expected to earn it, perform for [...]