Category: Faith/Spirituality
What Is Spiritual Violence? And Why We Must Talk About It
“If your faith doesn’t let you cry, rage, rest, or leave the places [...]
Why Must We Carry Everyone? The Heavy Expectation Placed on Black Women’s Healing
She wasn’t just expected to heal. She was expected to heal everyone [...]
You Never Know Who’s Listening
You don’t know which of the people around you are living in abusive [...]
I’m Not Explaining Myself Anymore—You Were Just Never Listening
There comes a point in your healing when you get tired.Not just tire [...]
They Don’t Deserve to Witness the Healed You if They Mocked the Broken You
Let’s stop romanticizing reconciliation with people who ridiculed yo [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many t [...]
They Called You Too Much—But What You Were Was Too Aware
You were never too much.You were too awake.
You noticed what others [...]
Walking Away Isn’t Weak. It’s the Bravest Thing You Ever Did.
They told you walking away meant you gave up.That you weren’t strong [...]
You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they ro [...]
They Don’t Miss You. They Miss the Version of You That Didn’t Know Better
Let’s tell the truth today.
Sometimes when people say they “miss you, [...]
Your Healing Threatens the People Who Benefited From Your Wounds
Not everyone wants to see you healed.Some people were only comfortab [...]
A Lot of Movements Need Black Women. But Do They Value Us?
....to gain some reciprocity
Lauryn Hill/X FactorWe see it ev [...]
Who Is Deserving of Black Women’s Solidarity?
There are furious debates about this behind closed doors. Personally [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has so [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.” [...]
What We’ve Carried Was Never Meant for Us
They taught us early how to carry it.
The silence.The secrets.The s [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not [...]
We Will Never Have a Safer World If We Don’t Treat Survivors with Respect
We keep saying we want a safer world. blah, blah, blahBut we will ne [...]
Male Deception Gets a Pass
And Women Who Tell the Truth Pay the Price.
Let’s tell the truth th [...]
