Survivor Affirmations: Wise Words from Louise Elliot on Self-Checks
Wise words shared by Louise Elliot on the X platform. When it comes to how we treat other people; we *all* fall short sometimes, but [...]
Performative Allyship: When the Applause Is Louder Than the Protection
There’s a kind of allyship that shows up only when the lights are on.When there's an audience.When speaking up will gain applause, followers, or favor [...]
When the Truth Ain’t Enough, They Spread Lies: How Rumors Were Used to Silence Civil Rights Women
They built movements.They led revolutions against wrongs, violence, and abuse they never should have to deal with.And when that wasn’t enough [...]
Why They Call It Identity Politics When We’re Just Naming the Wound
The term “identity politics” has become almost like a lightning rod in modern conversation. But beneath the noise, the resistance to it reveals a deep [...]
Umoja: Belief as a Source of Strength, Not Control
Umoja is a
Kiswahili word
that means "unity"
Your beliefs—whether they come from religion, personal values, or life experiences—are you [...]
Your Defense of Them Is a Betrayal of Me
Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.For the ones grieving the loss of community, connection, or even family:
You are not w [...]
Protecting Our Children: Essential Questions for Background Checks on Adults Working with Children
Lessons WE Should Have Learned from School Volunteer Deonte Carraway | WE Survive Abuse"Familiar" or "Known": The Fine Line Between Acquaintan [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone insults us.Mocks us.Lies about us.Disre [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
How People Prompt or Lure Women to Prove Their Worth
"Why doesn't she leave? Why did she go back?"
We don't spend a lot of time examining what makes women doubt themselves. I look forward to the days [...]
Putting an End to Useless Debate: Listening to the Voices of Violence Survivors
Over the years, society has been engaged in countless debates surrounding issues such as violence, abuse, and discrimination. While these discuss [...]
🌍 When People Say “No” — And Mean It
Recently, a young YouTuber was arrested after sneaking onto North Sentinel Island, home to the Sentinelese—one of the last uncontacted peoples on Ea [...]
Centering Safety: Honoring the Right to Request Female Carers
Some things should never be controversial.A disabled woman or girl requesting a female caregiver should not be met with outrage, mockery, or moral j [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peaceIt starts with a bad decision.Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesn’t always look like disbelief.It doesn’t always look [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too often, and too [...]
When “Anti-Carceral” Becomes a Back Door for Abuse
Survivors of violence, harm, and abuse know full well what "no justice, no peace" means. We live it. -Tonya GJ Prince
Justice for Survivors Is Not O [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient global wi [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
🌿 What Is Healing?
I'm a plant Mom again. I didn't realize I was sensitive about it until I sent one of my relatives pictures of my plants.She didn't say anythin [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your peace, your time, your healing, and your future.Saying “no” is not crue [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me.[...]
🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women
Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women."
We’ve heard it too many times [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said it gently at first.A whisper in the lock [...]
❓FAQ: What’s Going On With Untested Rape Kits?
Q: What is a rape kit?
A rape kit (also called a sexual assault forensic evidence kit) is used to collect DNA and physical evidence from a [...]
The Overlooked Truth: Asexuality, Boundaries, and Survivor Safety
Conversations about safety, consent, and boundaries are vital, yet there is a community that often gets overlooked: asexual individuals. Asexuality [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African ProverbFear as a Tool of Control
Throughout history, fe [...]
Violation is the Crime (Post Compilation)
I know everyone is short on time. So here's a post compilation.
One of the biggest obstacles to getting judges, attorneys, and political leaders to g [...]
The Delay Is the Damage: How Abusers Use Time to Their Advantage
from WESurviveAbuse.comThe truth about violence and abuse rarely rushes out of the shadows.It creeps.It stutters.It fights its way through sha [...]