Coercion in Disguise: When Love Asks You to Lie
When someone pressures a woman to lie, to go against her beliefs, her conscience, her values, her faith, or her integrity—that is not love. That is [...]
The Delay Is the Damage: How Abusers Use Time to Their Advantage
from WESurviveAbuse.com The truth about violence and abuse rarely rushes out of the shadows.It creeps.It stutters.It fights its way through sha [...]
When Propaganda is Used Against Abuse Survivors
Propaganda isn’t just for politics or war; it’s a powerful tool that gets used to control narratives about abuse survivors, shape public perception, a [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient global wi [...]
Prevent it-Trauma is Traumatizing.
This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. Some are in prison. Some are in b [...]
They Teach Us to Watch Our Cups, Not to Question the Pour
🍷headed into the fourth of July, right?.......Freedom?
Because they’d rather keep us on defensethan dare teach him self-control.
Because it’s easier [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Toni D. Rivera, Human Trafficking Expert
You can watch Toni's amazingly brave story: For My Man, S6 E13...Chained by Love from TVONE
Toni D Rivera - Human Traff [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
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This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
“Why Didn’t She Fight Back?”
I like how Apple Tree Yard explains it. The character seems to be speaking a language that he understands. Clearly. [...]
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Why Does Society Make it Difficult for Survivors of Rape & Abuse to Come Forward? Part 2
Original post 9/23/15 7. Every choice that you ever made (sexually) is scrutinized. They have questions.
Q: How many i [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to hide intent, to blur goals, to claim the [...]
Tina Turner Survived Through Hell and NOTHINg About That is Funny
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Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't capable of violence silences Survivors of [...]
The Disposability of the “Wrong” Women: A Call to Conscience (w/Affirmations)
There is a silence that wraps itself around certain women like a shroud—thick, suffocating, strategic.
It’s the silence reserved for women who are p [...]
“Can an AI Aunt Teach Humanity the Compassion It Forgot?”
In South Africa, a woman built an AI “Aunt” — a digital guide designed to support women facing violence. It’s a beautiful innovation born from heartbr [...]
Part 2: Why I Resist Diluted Language
But self-knowledgeBut self-knowledgeThe reason I refuse diluted language is because I have watched institutions dilute women's experiences f [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not th [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems.🟩 Center the most marginalized.🟩 Practic [...]
You’re Not Asking for Perfection—You’re Asking for Respect: Recognizing a Common Deflection Tactic
🎭 The Tactic
When you call out something harmful—like antisemitism, racism, sexism, or rape apologia—and the person responds with: “So I guess y [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males, Violence, & Abuse: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
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Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse. C [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-truths to guilt others into giving up spaces that were built for survival.
So let’ [...]
Sad But True Little Known Facts About Women in Prison
It is only by the grace of God that every female Survivor of abuse is not in prison, suffering more abuse and violence at the hands of men. [...]
When Political Parties “Care” — But Only in One Corner of Our Lives
Political parties love to remind women and minorities: We care about you.But too often, their care is narrow. Conditional. Safe for their talking poin [...]
When We Look Away: The Cost of Animal Abuse
Every minute in the United States, at least one animal is abused. That’s not metaphor—it’s fact. Behind every tick of the clock is a life mistreated, [...]
He Harmed Who He Harmed — Not Who He Told the World He Wanted
People keep acting like a man’s sexual identity is a character reference.
They say things like:
“He likes women.”“He has a girlfriend. [...]
Explain Like I'm 5: What victims of domestic violence go through to get justice
I originally posted this on 9/3/15. On 5/16/2016 I aided a victim in DC and unfortunately this is still true. Why doesn't she leave? This [...]
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. Their bodies were brutalized.
Their cr [...]
When the Harm Comes from Another Child: Why We Must Take Intra-Child Sexual Abuse Seriously
Updated from Oct 2016.....
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It’s hard being th [...]
No, Feminists Didn’t “Give Up a Happy Home.” We Fought to Escape a Cage
And the walls of that cage were built with silence, shame, and sanctioned suffering.
There’s a dangerous myth floating around like perfum [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women [...]