We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone… …that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.
…that they’re a predator.
…that they hurt women and children.
…that they weaponize power to harm and silence others.
Then surely, surely people would stop supporting them.
Surely people would walk away.
But I need to say something that may be hard to hear:
They already know.
Most people aren’t confused. They aren’t deceived.
They know exactly who he is. They know what he did.
They’ve heard the stories. Seen the bruises. Watched the patterns.
They just don’t care enough to stop supporting him.
Or worse—they do care, and they’ve chosen a side.
That side? It’s the side of:
Protection of social status.
Proximity to seasonal influence.
- Applause and attention.
- Crowd pleasing.
The illusion of safety through silence.
And so many of us—Survivors, truth-tellers, advocates—we keep showing up, spilling our stories and our hearts into the open, believing that if we just educate them, they’ll finally change.
But here’s the truth:
You cannot wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep.
And too often, we are exhausting ourselves, trying to reach people who have already made their decision.
They have chosen comfort over truth.
Loyalty to the abuser over love for the abused. (Even if they are Survivors too. Even if they are women too.)
Silence over integrity.
Power over people.
It hurts. Deeply.
But we must stop bleeding for those who delight in our pain.
We must stop spending our sacred energy trying to “make them understand.”
Because deep down… they already do. You do this long enough and they admit it to you. Look you right in your eye.
I guess they get tired of pretending. It has to be fatiguing.
This is for YOU
🛑 This is not a call to stop speaking truth.
💡 This is a call to choose your audience wisely.
🎯 Speak to those who are ready. Build with those who are listening.
💖 Protect your energy. You are not here to be a martyr for the willfully blind.
You deserve peace.
You deserve community.
You deserve clarity.
You deserve to know that no matter what they say, you are not “crazy”.
You deserve to live, speak, and thrive without begging for basic recognition of harm.
You are too good to live under the dilapidated and pain-infested conditions that you are being manipulated and coerced into accepting…… and something inside you has always known it.
Some people will never admit the truth.
Not because it isn’t clear.
But because admitting it would require them to change—and they are not willing.
📍Let us build anyway. For ourselves. For each other. For those yet to come.
We don’t need their permission to rise. We never did.
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