9 Dangerous Myths About Violence Against Women and Children
Violence against women and children is a pervasive issue, often perpetuated by misconceptions that downplay its severity and prevalence. Recognizing [...]
In California, Will a Male Mass Shooter Serve His Life Sentence in a Male or Women’s Prison? (upated)
This family is never going to leave my soul I see. I keep cleaning off my PC, but never their family picture. The one with Benny in a suit surrounded [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before: "You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. Spoken with eyes closed tight.
It goes s [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say: “I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.” But this isn’t the moment to center your predictions—It’ [...]
Black women in London facing ‘crisis’ as higher femicide rates revealed
The figures have been obtained by the PA news agency from the Metropolitan Police in a Freedom of Information request. T [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
🚨 Silence Isn’t Neutral. It’s Permission.
Let’s talk about the men who say:
“I don’t get involved in drama.”“That’s between them.”“Not all men are like that.”“I’d never do that, but I’m not [...]
When DEI Disappears, So Do the Safeguards for Victims and Survivors
The Tech Transparency Project reports that Google removed 58 nonprofit organizations from a public list of those receiving “most substantial contribut [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writers and creators who choose to ridicule, [...]
Dignity Is Not Bitterness: Elder Women Deserve Safety, Too
Aging should not mean surrendering safety.Growing older should not mean losing the right to be heard, respected, or protected.
And yet—Too many eld [...]
She Didn’t Stay Because She Didn’t Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didn’t know.
Didn’t know her worth.Didn’t know what he was doing to her.Didn’t know what love is supposed to l [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
You Didn’t Know Him. She Did. He Killed Her.
He killed her. Murdered her. Left the broken pieces for their children to pick up for the rest of their lives.
And people still asked about his menta [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
updated from June 8 2025 We are not just Black.We are not just women....or girlsWe are Black women and Black girlsand we need care, health, and saf [...]
In Safety-Centered Spaces—Let’s Tell the Truth About Invasion
When it comes to women and girls, invasion looks like:
Forcing male presence into spaces where women go to breathe, to heal, to be safe wit [...]
Take a Look at WHO Is Being Killed by Guns
Who needs a war? Who needs expensive weapons if genocide is what you desire most? Just give everyone and anyone a gun anytime they [...]
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When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022 LISTEN HERE Black women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
Why Women Protect Single-Sex Spaces—Even from “Nice Guys”
Women aren’t being mean. We’re being wise.
We’ve learned—through generations of harm—that safe spaces must be protected. Not just in theory. But in [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would never let that happen to you.”
But here’s [...]
7 Devastating Truths About the Atrocities Facing Women and Girls in Sudan (and Why the World Must Not Look Away)
Women and girls in Sudan are facing unspeakable violence—sexual violence used as a weapon of war, mass displacement, and ethnic cleansing. These are n [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025 Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
Silenced Prey: Unsolved murders of Black women in Chicago leave puzzling pattern
https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/betrayal-blindness-the-cost-of-ignoring-harm/ https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/lets-not-confuse-two-differ [...]
From Michael Harriot: How a City Ignored the (Systemic) Rape, Murder and Terrorism of Black Women for Four Decades
updated from December 4, 2024 "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced."
-James Baldwin Si [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, tired of grieving alone, and tired of sy [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
Who Protects the Women Whose Stories Don’t Trend
The work of women's safety, women's rights, women's liberation and women's healing is not a music and entertainment battle. When our movements turn [...]
The Harrowing Murder of Olivia Jones | Killers Caught On Camera
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRKZ9tddZrk&t=87s The surveillance cameras that he posted in the home helped to convict him of her murder. They [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous happening in the public square.
Women and girl [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
“Why Do We Treat Male ‘Change’ Like a Sacred Revelation Instead of a Responsibility?”
A man "changes". Why do we women receive this as our "marching orders"? Do men do this? NO. They treat our changes and transformations as our pe [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
Stephan Smerk Pleads Guilty in 1994 Slaying of Virginia Mother Robin Lawrence
*48Hours had a female FBI expert who shared valuable insight. In her opinion the murder was likely pre-planned. If you get an opportunit [...]
Human Rights Organizations Should NEVER Tell Women and Girls to “Move”
The year is 2026. So-called leaders, writers, the academic class, news media, medical groups, and organizations are calling women's rights group [...]
10 Reasons to Be Outraged about Harvey Marcelin: How the System Protected a Killer Instead of Women
When a man kills three women over his lifetime, the system did not just fail once. It failed over and over. It was designed this way. Not all [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
Pornography Didn’t Start the Fire: A Clear Look at History, Power, and Violence
With war, comes murder and rape
Pornography is often blamed as the reason violence—especially violence against women—has escalated.
That sounds clea [...]
When is “All Skin Folk Ain’t Kin Folk” Going to Apply to Those Who Kill Us?
"All skin folk ain't kin folk"
really ought to start
applying to people
who maim, murder, & leave
children parentless
in the Black commu [...]
Twelve Steps to Danger: How Alcoholics Anonymous Can Be a Playground for Violence-Prone Members (from ProPublica)
Karla Brada Mendez thought that she was getting a second chance on life when she started going to AA meetings. But instead she met Eric Allen Earle, a [...]
Black Domestic Violence Victims Deserve Compassion. Not Cruelty Dressed as “Accountability.”
Let’s tell the truth:
Black women are often the last to be believed,the last to be protected,and the first to be blamed.
When we speak about the vio [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
This Isn’t “Just Drama.” This Is Coercive Sex Trafficking
There is a deep and dangerous misunderstanding about the case involving Sean Combs and what it means to traffic someone through coercion. So let’s m [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry. People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update. Hi [...]
She Knows What He’s Capable Of—Do You?
Why doesn't she leave?
Because domestic abuse is not a disagreement. It’s a terror campaign.
Because domestic abuse isn’t a disagreement.It’s a ca [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that deserve to be spoken with reverence—not onl [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Aline Borel Was Not Just a Meme: When a Woman Is Misread, Labeled, and Killed
I've seen the meme of her so often. You may have too.
She was a woman from Brazil who was harmed "by mistake," they say. Accused of be [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males, Violence, & Abuse: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
updated from March 21 2022 Th [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once: “The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.” Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just upset.”
[...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
Stop the Ahistorical Comparison: Jim Crow Was Violent, Girls’ Sports Does Not Have To Be
updated from March 28, 2025
This is so cruel.
There’s a new talking point going around:That not allowing boys to compete against girls in sp [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that. This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding t [...]
African Women Will Not Be Silenced: How the Continent is Rising Against Gender-Based Violence
"If the lion does not tell her story, the hunter will." — African Proverb Across Africa, women are rising—not just in protest, but [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, history shows us what happens when laws are built arou [...]
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. Their bodies were brutalized.
Their cr [...]
When They Don’t See You as a Person, They Don’t Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesn’t stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, and survivor services—places where safe [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. She was soft-spoken, nurturing, and trust [...]
The Voices We Don’t Hear Are Still Speaking
In our fast-moving world, where everything from news to justice seems to depend on who has the loudest microphone, I want us to remember something sac [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
Rosa Parks: A Stealth Strategist Against Deceit, Manipulation, and Violence
updated from January 6, 2025 with new links and information
Let's be honest, the word "gaslighting" gets thrown around a lot these days. But for thos [...]
Alanda Cuffee Deserved Safety: When “A Small Argument” Reveals a Deadly Entitlement
Alanda Cuffee’s death is deeply sad, and the reported details are chilling.
Public reports say Alanda Cuffee, 39, was shot and killed in Escambia Cou [...]
Red Flags: Why Am I Feeling Unseen Here? Clues Survivors Notice First.
To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking about spaces, and conversations around viole [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
✊🏾 Women Deserve Safety Without Apology
It is not hateful to name a reality:The same laws that allow trans-identified males to enter women’s spaces also open the door for any man—including [...]