Gaslighting on a National Scale: Why Treating Black Women Like a Burden Is Abuse, Not Oversight
Don’t Call It a Favor
The nerve—the absolute gall—to act like you're doing us a favor by ending discrimination.
By “allowing” Black people, especial [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries-Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves....... In Jim Crow America, Black people—especially Black women and girls—were forbidden from having boundarie [...]
Why Abuse Leaves You with Chronic Self-Doubt
And Why That Doesn’t Mean You’re Broken
There’s something few people talk about after abuse ends:The way self-doubt clings to you like a second ski [...]
The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. “Be the bigger person.” “Let it go.” “Forgive and move on.” Society is comfortable w [...]
How What We Don't Know About Suicide is Killing People
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides were reported, making suicide the [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women
Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women."
We’ve heard it too many times [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
📢 Boundaries Are My Vitamins—And I Take Them Daily
You ever been around somebody who drains your energy just by texting “hey”?Yeah. That’s why I take my Boundaries Supplement every morning—no water n [...]
Some of Us Can’t Pretend Institutions Are Harmless
It’s a strange kind of exhaustion—working beside women who understand abuse in private relationships, yet act confused when the same dyn [...]
Why Must We Carry Everyone? The Heavy Expectation Placed on Black Women’s Healing
She wasn’t just expected to heal. She was expected to heal everyone around her too—without flinching, without resting, without breaking.” Why i [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Value Wise Counseling
I value wise counseling.In times of confusion, wise words enable me to stay grounded like the anchor on a ship. Instead of being swayed by every wind [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
🤲🏽 What Is Self-Trust? (And Why Is It So Hard After Abuse?)
Self-trust is the sacred belief that your own voice is worth listening to.It’s the quiet knowing inside that says: “I believe myself. I can rely [...]
❓FAQ: Can You Heal If You Never Got Closure?
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Q: Can you heal if you never got closure?A: Yes. You absolutely can. And many Survivors do.
But let's be real: it's not easy. [...]
The Relationship Between Power and Truth: Why Survivors Must Be Free to Speak
So women all over the globe started telling truths around violence, abuse, and sexual harassment. The next thing you [...]
Why Do So Many Lies Feel True? The Hidden Psychology No One Talks About
There is a moment in every soul’s journey when the world begins to whisper:
“This must be the truth—everyone is saying it.”
But repetition is not re [...]
10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there ar [...]
Pregnancy, Panic, and the Past: Supporting Survivors Through the Miracle of Birth
*Updated for 2025
When a close relative—let’s call her Morgan—announced her pregnancy, our entire family was ecstatic.
I wanted to hear ever [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
Overcoming Insecurities for Women
Living with insecurities can be an incredibly difficult experience for women. It can be even worse if you are unaware of what is causing those in [...]
Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. Well, one thing that powerful people do is maintain strict boundaries. The average [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in denial, [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
Survivor Affirmations: My Health Story Matters and My Voice is Unafraid (video short)
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Disability and Reclaim My Voice (video short) | WE Survive Abuse [...]
Why Women’s Rights Vary by State—and Men’s Don’t: A Breakdown of Legal Inequality in America
Do you see all this debate over "women's spaces" and NONE over men's spaces?
There’s a line from a 1976 film that still echoes today: “I [...]
If the Mind Believes What It Hears Most — What Are We Teaching It About Safety?
There’s a reason children learn the alphabet through songs. There’s a reason faith traditions chant.
There’s a reason we remember “I have a dream. [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged Bird Sings
I’ve always been a voracious reader.
Since as far back as I can remember, my mother [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
Life-Saving Advice for Black Women from The Positive Birth Coach
@thepositivebirthcoach Replying to @MVP I hope this helps, a guide for black women advocating for yourselves in maternity care @The Motherhood Group @ [...]
Sisterhood Isn’t a Cage: Reject the Love Bombs That Protect Male Violence
Some women will drench you in compliments, promises, and affection —not to celebrate you,not to empower you,but to disarm you.
They come smiling, arm [...]