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Survivor Affirmations: I Cheer for ME!
Please take the time to be proud of yourself. Please cheer for yourself!If no one else cheers for you, cheer for yourself! 5 Ways to Feel Mo [...]
𧚠Myth-Busting the âRacial Harmonyâ Era: What We Werenât Supposed to Say
Many believe the 1980s to early 2000s were a time of racial harmony in America, especially within the women's movement to end violence. But for Black, [...]
They Hope You Never Realize How Powerful You Already Are
đč They Hope You Donât See It
There is something they hope you never realize.Something that terrifies them.
Itâs not your weakness.Itâs your power.
[...]
The Relationship Between Power and Truth: Why Survivors Must Be Free to Speak
So women all over the globe started telling truths around violence, abuse, and sexual harassment. The next thing you [...]
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements Survivors Should Recognize and Trust Their Gut About
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements
âIâm going to get helpâjust give me a little more time.âUsed to delay accountability and stop the Survivor [...]
Affirmations for Strength and Boundaries Around Black Women’s Humanity: Rooted in Baldwinâs Wisdom
"We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression
and denial of my humanity and right to exist."
-Jame [...]
You Donât Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they romanticize it.
They call it âloyalty.âThey call it âlove.âThey call it âthe good [...]
Red Flags: Why Am I Feeling Unseen Here? Clues Survivors Notice First.
To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking about spaces, and conversations around viole [...]
If Any of Your Relationships Run on Silence and Lies, Itâs Time to Reclaim Your Voice
I need to speak to you plain today.
There comes a time in healing when you must take a long, hard look around you and ask:Who benefits from my sile [...]
She Wasnât Weak. He Was Dishonest.
We need to talk about the way society punishes women for being manipulated.
She trusted someone.She believed his words.She gave him the benefit of th [...]
The Survival Doll Trap: A Caution
Stay away from people who canât wait to see you step into danger, but never rejoice in your survival. These are the ones who treat your survival like [...]
When a Name Is a Doorway Back to Harm: Why womenâs personal choices are not public property
Some decisions look so simple. From the outside. A last name. A form. A signature. A box checked or left blank. But for some women, a [...]
The Hidden Bill: What Violence Against Women Really Costs
When we talk about violence, we rarely talk about what the financial costs. Not just the broken bones or the heartbreak â but the billions of dolla [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, itâs that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
đ When Children Are Punished for Feeling, They Learn to Go Along with Harm
Thereâs something we donât talk about nearly enough:
When children are punished too oftenâespecially for having feelings or telling the truthâthey do [...]
How Abusers and Systems Use âYou Have It Goodâ to Normalize Deprivation
Gratitude is something I practice as a core part of my healing.
But all good things can be misused.
This is not a call for gratitude.
This is contr [...]
Stop Calling It Respect When Itâs Really Silence
When children are trapped in abusive homes, theyâre not just harmed by the acts themselves. Theyâre trained through language. Words become cages. The [...]
Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-be [...]
Harm-Jacking: When Your Pain Becomes Someone Elseâs Weapon
There have always been obstaclesâbut there have also always been real ones by our side, standing strong with us to rise above with them.
Itâs been [...]
When Control Becomes Abuse: Recognizing Coercive Control in Relationships
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How Loss of Autonomy Mirrors the Pain of Imposter Syndrome đ Loss of Autonomy
Every adult has the [...]
Celebrity Trials, Silencing, and the Spectacle of Misogyny
Letâs talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court casesâabout abuse, about loyalty, and about truth.
Time and again, we see wo [...]
Healing Changed MeâAnd Some People Only Loved the Version of Me Who Didnât Know Her Worth
A post for the Survivor whoâs outgrowing relationships built on their silence, sacrifice, and self-erasure
Thereâs a version of you they liked bett [...]
đ„ Hereâs How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that arenât intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm usâmisogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchyâare built into society, shaping the [...]
âš If You Werenât Powerful, They Wouldnât Be Obsessed with Dimming You
The world doesnât chase whatâs ordinary.It only tries to contain what shines.
When you find yourself picked apart, ridiculed, or shut out,remember â [...]
When Men Define Womanhood: The Power, The Harm, and The Resistance
For centuries, men have claimed the authority to define what a woman is. From religious texts to medical books, from courtrooms to boardrooms, men hav [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/loves Thereâs a saying that floats around on [...]
When Thinness Was a Virtue: 1980s Body Ideals and the Cost to Womenâs Health
We woke upto pastel lycra and a bounce in the beatâWe started with aerobics at dawn,counted every calorie by noon,and aimed for a âbeach bodyâ by du [...]
50 Times We Walked Past YouâOur Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
When They Say Speaking About Racism is the Problem: The Same Old Victim-Blaming Playbook
There is a pattern.
A Survivor of abuse speaks up, and the world responds: "Why now?"
"Youâre just being divisive."
"Talking about it [...]
Ignite Change: Affirmations to Amplify Women’s Rights Worldwide
When people finally take off the mask they wear to hide misogyny they may say things to women like:
Ugly/Unworthy
"You look like a man."
"No man [...]
Why Defending Your Boundaries Doesnât Make You HatefulâIt Makes You Strong
And we know how people feel about strong women. It is deeply disrespectful to violate womenâs boundaries. Boundaries are not optional; they [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.Â
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join gro [...]
Gender Critical Thinkers: How Can We Speak of Freedom When So Many Women Still Canât Speak at All?
A womanist does not enter this conversation as a spectator â we enter it as those who have lived inside the body that the world debates.
Long before [...]
10 Ways Society Trains Women to Doubt Their Own Safety Instincts
Many women can remember a moment when their instincts spoke clearly. A feeling in the stomach.
A tightening in the chest.
A quiet inner voice say [...]
Survivor Affirmation: Challenges Teach Me Valuable Lessons
Challenges Teach Me Valuable LessonsWhen I encounter challenging situations, I avoid running away from them. Being able to face obstacles gives me a c [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesnât Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to pour?
Women are always told to give.To support, love, uplift, and protectâespecia [...]
When Belief Becomes a Cage
Belief is powerful. It shapes how we see the world, how we raise our children, how we decide what is right and what is wrong. But belief can also be t [...]
You Were Always Worth LovingâThey Just Werenât Capable of Giving It
There are people who will make you question everything good about yourselfbecause they were never capable of loving you well.
And yetâyou tried.You [...]
The Truth We Carry, the Healing We Deserve
updated for 2025 Thereâs something we donât always say out loud, but it matters deeply:The pain of the past doesnât go away just because we bury it [...]
Your Voice Was Never the ProblemâTheir Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing it up."To let it go.
But letâs name what was really happening:
Your voice was [...]
What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They told us it meant never falling apart.Never crying.Never walking away.Never say [...]
đ¶ Playlist: Songs That Speak the Truth â Domestic Violence & Survival
Sometimes music is the only thing brave enough to say what weâve been through.
This playlist brings together 11 songs across R&B, soul, pop, and [...]
You Donât Need Their Explanation to Be Free
You waited for an apology that never came.You held your breath, hoping for an ounce of truth.You thought maybe if you asked the right questions,crie [...]
Holding Truth in Unequal Times: Responding to False Comparisons While Still Healing
Speaking truth while living through it takes courage â and grace that history rarely sees in real time.
False equivalence can be extremely effective, [...]
They Stopped Speaking to You: Navigating Religious Disconnection
Many faith communities, traditions, or denominationsâacross the worldâhave practices of disaffiliation or shunning, especially when someone is seen as [...]
Myth: âIf Women Just Spoke Up Sooner, They Could Have Stopped the Abuseâ
Reality: Abusers Cultivate Silence, and Society Punishes Women Who Speak
One of the most insidious myths about abuse is the idea that if [...]
Dear Women: No Manâs Negative Voice Belongs in Your Head
Dear women, letâs get this straight: no manâs negative voice deserves rent-free space in your mind. Too many men have tried to shrink us with words [...]
Life-Saving Advice for Black Women from The Positive Birth Coach
@thepositivebirthcoach Replying to @MVP I hope this helps, a guide for black women advocating for yourselves in maternity care @The Motherhood Group @ [...]
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Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve JusticeâNo Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white menâs impunity to excuse Black menâs predation. Accountability for Black predators is notâ and will never beâmeasured ag [...]
Gaslighting on a National Scale: Why Treating Black Women Like a Burden Is Abuse, Not Oversight
Donât Call It a Favor
The nerveâthe absolute gallâto act like you're doing us a favor by ending discrimination.
By âallowingâ Black people, especial [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators â and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
Women Will Not Wait for Your Permission to Tell Our Own Stories
When they first came out with the term "birthing peopleâ I remember questioning it among other women including on the Twitter app. How did we fe [...]
When the World ONLY Rewards Women for Being Agreeable
"Be kind." As if this hasn't been a necessary part of most (not all-and not based on color alone) women's survival toolkit since the beginning [...]
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Resilient Spirit: 10 Reasons Black Women’s Stories of Overcoming Abuse and Violence Are Important
"The Color Purple" by Alice Walker is one of the earliest and most well-known books written by a black woman about domestic violence. While it ma [...]
Survivor Affirmations: As a Woman, I Am Powerful When I Heal Just for Me, Myself, and I
Women can't heal on behalf of everyone else, nor should we be expected to.Let others do their own homework. Healing Just for YOUAffirm [...]
Youâre Not FailingâYouâre Feeling
A post for Survivors who mistake emotional struggle for regression So often, when the tears come back, when the triggers resurface, when the grief [...]
Calling Out the Undermining of Women and Children’s Rights
"We are living in times so strange that truth sounds like conspiracy, and kindness feels like rebellion."â Unknown Jonah Wheeler has been lec [...]