10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
50 Times We Walked Past You—Our Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
12 Things It Is Not Women’s Job to Fix
updated from July 11, 2025— Especially When We’re Still Doing Most of the Work for Less PayThis piece honors the fact that women perform a [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
Respect Without Surrender
It is possible — and necessary — for people to be respected, valued, and protected by law without being granted unconditional access to you.Respec [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
We Carried the Battle. Don’t Rewrite the War.
Black American women do not own braids. Braids have lived on many heads across many cultures for centuries.But when it comes to who fought to wear t [...]
Why Forgetting the Wisdom of Elders Weakens Movements — And How Honoring Them Strengthens the Future
“A river that forgets its source will soon run dry.”— African proverb
There is a scene in The Women of Brewster Place where the women get fed up wit [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Black History Month…. Lets Go!
Updated from January 28, 2024Black History Month is not a highlight reel. It is a living inheritance. A remembering of courage carried quietly, br [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the DoubtWe’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And beca [...]
📢 Boundaries Are My Vitamins—And I Take Them Daily
You ever been around somebody who drains your energy just by texting “hey”?Yeah. That’s why I take my Boundaries Supplement every morning—no water n [...]
When Your Strength Makes Them Angry
Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong just for standing in your own power.
You say no.You speak up.You leave.You choos [...]
Survivors Who Speak Up Become Light for the Rest of Us
Young people say: I don't believe women and girls should have to be stronger. We ought to be fighting for a world that gives us all less to survive. I [...]
You’re Not Her Judge. You’re Not Even Helpful.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivor’s choices is the same as offering help.It’s not. [...]
You Were Always Worth Loving—They Just Weren’t Capable of Giving It
There are people who will make you question everything good about yourselfbecause they were never capable of loving you well.
And yet—you tried.You [...]
You Don’t Need Their Explanation to Be Free
You waited for an apology that never came.You held your breath, hoping for an ounce of truth.You thought maybe if you asked the right questions,crie [...]
🎬 We’re Not Just Watching the Story—We’re Being Told Who We’re Allowed to Be
At We Survive Abuse, we talk a lot about truth, survival, and the power of reclaiming your story. But what if I told you that even the stories we wa [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Moc [...]
The Language of Women’s Freedom: Feminophobia
For generations, women have been told they were imagining "it."
You can fill in the blank for millions of untold "it" things."If you sp [...]
Eve’s Legacy Is More Than Music—It’s a Blueprint for Reinvention
Eve is more than a mic and a moment—she’s a one woman movement.From Philly cyphers to global stages, from "Love Is Blind" to Emmy-winning co-h [...]
🌬️ Benediction for the Journey: On Letting Go
Letting go is not weakness.Letting go is not failure.Letting go is not giving up.
Letting go is sacred.Letting go is survival.Letting go is Womanist [...]
Nic Ferguson: 4 Types of Boundaries and How to Communicate Them
Having boundaries is one thing. Learning how to communicate them is another......[...]
It Wasn’t Rejection. It Was Redirection to Your Own Power
There was a time when you stayed in places that dimmed you.In love that drained you.In conversations where your truth had to whisper.In relationship [...]
Please Stop Telling Survivors, “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far.” History Says Otherwise.
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact:
Before his murders were discovered, Bundy did volunteer at a suicide crisis hotline in [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
The Double Standard: Why Black Women Carry Everyone Else’s Accountability
Some people judge Black women as if influence comes with a lifetime warranty on another person's integrity...
This is not a defense of Oprah specific [...]
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Instinct Is Not Ignorance. It’s Survival.
There’s something sacred about a warning call in the wild.
A rustle.A cry.A shift in the wind.The herd doesn’t debate.The birds don’t fact-check.The [...]
🔊 The Right to Speak: What a Difference a Voice Makes
Updated for 2025Silence
“You have the right to remain silent.”
I first heard that phrase in my 8th grade Civics class during the lesson on Miran [...]
They Hope You Never Realize How Powerful You Already Are
🌹 They Hope You Don’t See It
There is something they hope you never realize.Something that terrifies them.
It’s not your weakness.It’s your power.
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You Weren’t Difficult. You Were Just Finally Done Pretending It Didn’t Hurt
They called you difficult.Unreasonable.Too sensitive.Hard to love.
But what they really meant was:You stopped making it easy for them to mistreat y [...]
Survivor Affirmation: During Difficult Times My Intuition Speaks
I am able to hear my intuition speak during difficult times. During difficult times, I listen to my intuition and follow its advice. My intuition [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
A Nurse Speaks: What They’re Not Telling Black Women About PrEP, Trust, and Risk
"The pharmaceutical industry is profiting off a cycle of deceit,
selling us the cure for the recklessness they are quietly enabling.".......
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How Women’s Pain Is Minimized to Keep Men Comfortable
If there were no men in the room,no men in the equation,no men to protect or appease—
would anyone ever look a girl in the eye and say:“It’s no [...]
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
🛡️ Survival Required Specificity
We don’t survive by blending in.We survive by knowing who we are,what harmed us,and what helps us heal.
Oppressive [...]
🖤 “They Couldn’t Deny What They Never Gave”
✊🏾 1. Many Black women rejected the idea that womanhood flows from whiteness.
Throughout history, Black women have critiqued the idea that womanhoo [...]
Who Is Deserving of Black Women’s Solidarity?
There are furious debates about this behind closed doors. Personally, the older that I get, the more conservative I tend to be with my energy flow.
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10 Dangerous Beliefs That Have Harmed Women Around the World
Some lies don’t look like lies.They wear the clothing of “tradition,” “culture,” “love,” or “femininity.”But if you look closer, you’ll see the brui [...]
Using Michelle Obama’s Image to Justify White Supremacy Is a Self-Own—And a Betrayal
If you don’t get out there and define yourself, you’ll be quickly and inaccurately defined by others.
-Michelle Obama
(Why Black wom [...]
When Niceness Becomes a Trap: Why Women Deserve the Bottom Line, Not Confusion
Women are often encouraged to be kind, accommodating, flexible, and understanding — even when our safety is at stake. We are told to “be nice.” We are [...]
10 Lessons The Color Purple Teaches Women About Hope, Discernment, and Trusting What You See
updated from February 15 2026 One of the hardest lessons many women learn is this:Love does not require you to ignore what your e [...]
🌸 Trusting Yourself Again After Abuse: A Return to Your Inner Knowing
When you’ve survived abuse — especially the kind that twists your reality, shames your feelings, or calls your truth a lie —self-trust doesn’t just co [...]
Ignite Change: Affirmations to Amplify Women’s Rights Worldwide
When people finally take off the mask they wear to hide misogyny they may say things to women like:
Ugly/Unworthy
"You look like a man."
"No man [...]
If Any of Your Relationships Run on Silence and Lies, It’s Time to Reclaim Your Voice
I need to speak to you plain today.
There comes a time in healing when you must take a long, hard look around you and ask:Who benefits from my sile [...]
What Is Agency—and What Does It Have to Do with Your Safety?
✨ You Hear It All the Time These Days: “Agency.” But What Does That Actually Mean?In conversations about trauma, healing, justice, and identity—we [...]
The More You Heal, the More You Offend Those Who Don’t Want To
Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash—not just from strangers, but from people you once trusted with your heart.
What [...]
Women’s Right to Choose: The Fight Isn’t Over
"If it tries to diminish me, my health,
my safety,
my ascendance,
or my rights,
it is unacceptable, to me."
Tonya [...]
They Called It Victimhood. I Call It Rising.
After abuse, it’s common to be met with silence when you’re hurting — and then judgment when you begin to glow.
They did not think this part through [...]
When Control Becomes Abuse: Recognizing Coercive Control in Relationships
🚩 Concerning Signs of Abuse and Control
How Loss of Autonomy Mirrors the Pain of Imposter Syndrome🔒 Loss of Autonomy
Every adult has the [...]
12 Things About the Female Body Many Men Do Not Understand
Pain is routinely normalized for womenMen are often treated quickly for pain. Women are more likely to be told it’s “stress,” “hormones,” or s [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
There is a belief too many refuse to name—because to name it would reveal the lie.
It is the belief that:“No space should ever be off-limits to [...]
Affirmed: I Protect My Rights to Safety and Dignity (Infographic)
Audio: God Bless the Child/Ethel EnnisI Protect My Rights To Safety and Dignity Infographic by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
It’s Not the Phrase. It’s the Harm.
Some folks are upset nowabout the phrase:“I don’t owe you.”
Around here, we are retiring the phrase.
But not because people do not like it,
but be [...]
She Wasn’t Weak. He Was Dishonest.
We need to talk about the way society punishes women for being manipulated.
She trusted someone.She believed his words.She gave him the benefit of th [...]
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Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
Women’s History Month Closing Affirmations: Speak Truth, Name Harm, Keep Going
We close this month with clear eyes. Not just looking back, but looking forward with intention.We honor how far women have come. We refuse to be q [...]
The Shifting Burden of Safety — And Who’s Carrying It Now
In recent years, the responsibility for keeping peace, avoiding danger, and anticipating harm has landed—again—squarely on women’s shoulders.Not becau [...]